What causes you to get out of bed in the morning?   It might be an obligation to do something, an obligation to another person, or an event.   It might be easier to ask, what keeps you in bed in the morning.    Maybe there isn’t anything compelling that would create the desire to get out of bed.

Activation energy is the term used that raises the energy to a level that allows us to get out of bed.   The amount of energy that it takes to get out of bed is the same amount of energy that it takes to create change in your life.   It is desire.  What creates that desire?

Take a look at Tony Robbins talks about desire.   It is a force that we have that once unleashed can create wonders.

Desire lives in an emotional well.   If there is no way to tap into that well then we aren’t going to achieve the results we so desperately want.   It takes time to dig the well deep enough to use those resources.  Emotion fuels athletes, it fuels corporate executives, it fuels politicians, it fuels the nurse in the middle of the night, it fuels the crying baby, it fuels that dream that you have and it fuels life. Tap into your desires today!

What are you waiting for?   Start now …

“When it’s time to die, let us not discover that we have never lived.” -Henry David Thoreau

If there is an idea in your mind that could turn into something of value them make that idea real.   The simple formula of what the mind can conceive and then turn into a belief that it can be done, can be done.

What inspires people to take action?   What does it take to move an idea from a concept into something that can be believed?  Where does the creative spark come from?

Once that spark has been set in place and has room to grow that idea becomes bigger.  The idea is shared with someone, and then someone else and they say, “Go do it, go do it!” and  for some reason it sits in a dormant place and never is realized.   It becomes another regret in a sea of past regrets.  It wasn’t that the idea wasn’t good enough, or big enough or bold enough, it was that the idea wasn’t believed in strongly enough for it to come to life.

Take the idea and let it live.

It’s time.  It’s time for your concept to grow wings and come alive.

Where do ideas come from?   Take a look at this video and learn a new way to think.

Conceive, believe and then achieve.

“Creativity is a great motivator because it makes people interested in what they are doing. Creativity gives hope that there can be a worthwhile idea. Creativity gives the possibility of some sort of achievement to everyone. Creativity makes life more fun and more interesting.”
― Edward De Bono

Believe!   What do you believe about yourself?

I believe I am ________________________.

What would you put in that sentence stem?   What do you believe?  What do you want to believe about yourself?   I have found that many people tend to believe on the worst thing about themselves.   Many believe things such as “I am not good enough”.   Those words ripple through their body and stun their soul into inaction.   How can you do great things if you don’t believe that you can?

“I am not good enough”, it impacts all areas of life.  What would it be like if those words didn’t echo in your mind like a stray bullet?   What would it be like to say “I am good enough” and believe it?  What would that mean to you?

What would it feel like to shift the message that rings around in your head to something that would shift your confidence and belief in yourself to something positive and beneficial?

Here are some steps to take to shift the internal messages to something that will bring about confidence.

1. Think about a time you were successful and think about what it felt like.

2. Sink negative messages with new words of “I can”.

3.  Face the fear and send it on its way.  That is examine the fear you feel and test it.  Is it real or is it a belief  you have.  If it is a belief replace the belief with facts rather than fiction.

4. Be present.  Focus on what you can do right now.

5. Write down and capture your feelings and understand what is behind them.

It takes practice to shift your dominant thoughts from “I am not good enough” to “I am good enough”.

“As long as you have life and breath, believe. Believe for those who cannot. Believe even if you have stopped believing. Believe for the sake of the dead, for love, to keep your heart beating, believe. Never give up, never despair, let no mystery confound you into the conclusion that mystery cannot be yours.”
Mark Helprin,  ’A Soldier of the Great War’

Imagine and then believe.

It starts with an idea something as small as a spark and it can set into motion great movements.   So often people get stuck and back away from living life full out.   Rather than challenge each day they witness the day from behind the front lines of change.   Where do you stand in the challenge of each day, on the forefront or in the background.

Take a look at this video clip and learn to understand what belief can do.  What can belief do for you?

What do you believe about yourself?

What do you believe about your abilities?

What do you believe about your dreams?

What do you need to change about your beliefs?   Take the time to write the answers down and then take the time to reflect on what you believe.

What are your beliefs costing you?

How are your beliefs supporting you?

This year take time to check your beliefs and then push, pull and tug on those beliefs that will allow you to live the life you want to live.  Take your beliefs to a higher level.  Take your life to a higher level.

When?  Today!  Right now!   It’s time to expand your life and challenge your beliefs.

2011 has come to an end  and now it is the beginning of 2012, how did  2011 go for you?   What did you achieve?   This is a great time to sit down and write down the things that you were going to do and matching that to what you really did do.   What did you do?

What lessons did you learn from the past year?   What will you do differently in the coming year?

It is time to program your mind for success.   It is time to write down goals for this year and put them in a place where you can see them on a daily basis.   Ideally they would be tacked to something you are going to view daily.    Read the goals daily and ask yourself what are you doing to bring you closer to achieving those goals.

Make achievement a practice and then practice achievement on a daily basis.   There are plenty of people who are resisting improving their life don’t be one of them.   If the TV is on turn it off.   Create a new habit that supports your goals.

“Challenging the meaning of life is the truest expression of the state of being human.”    Viktor E. Frankl

Floral Expressions
The expressions of flowers, dancing in colorful symphony.

Musical Expressions
Musical tones that are set to amaze.

Visual Expressions
A magical light show.

What would happen if you created “magic” everyday?   Not the kind of magic that is filled with smoke and mirrors, but the kind of magic that brings a smile to your face, a moment of joy and happiness, that kind of magic.

What would it take to make the day more exciting and enjoyable for you?

How about some ideas?

1. Get some flowers and give it to a random person,  anyone and surprise them.

2. Smile at a stranger.

3. Buy a lunch for an elderly person.

4. Take the cook the who cooks all the meals at a  homeless shelter out for lunch.

What ideas do you have?  What things could you do to make a magical moment?
Now don’t just think about it, go do it.  Make it happen.
Who do you know that is unemployed?    Give them a big box of toilet paper.
Who do you know that is struggling with each day?    Give them a hug.
Who do you know that has just gone through a divorce?   Throw them a party.

Connect with those who are struggling and make their day better in some way.
Make it fun and memorable, make it magical.

 It is the function of art to renew our perception. What we are familiar with we cease to see. The writer shakes up the familiar scene, and, as if by magic, we see a new meaning in it. 

Anais Nin

One thing

If you were to change one thing in your life what would it be?

Send me an email – coachwithheart@gmail.com and tell me what that one thing is you’d like to change.     Go ahead do it now.

Celebrate by bringing something new into your life.

There was a moment in sports when employing a coach was unimaginable—and then came a time when not doing so was unimaginable. We care about results in sports, and if we care half as much about results in schools and in hospitals we may reach the same conclusion. Local health systems may need to go the way of the Albemarle school district. We could create coaching programs not only for surgeons but for other doctors, too—internists aiming to sharpen their diagnostic skills, cardiologists aiming to improve their heart-attack outcomes, and all of us who have to figure out ways to use our resources more efficiently. In the past year, I’ve thought nothing of asking my hospital to spend some hundred thousand dollars to upgrade the surgical equipment I use, in the vague hope of giving me finer precision and reducing complications. Avoiding just one major complication saves, on average, fourteen thousand dollars in medical costs—not to mention harm to a human being. So it seems worth it. But the three or four hours I’ve spent with Osteen each month have almost certainly added more to my capabilities than any of this.”  by Atul Gawande  Read more

The above paragraphs are from a much longer article in the “New Yorker” magazine in which a surgeon describes the benefits of having a coach.    Like athletes or anyone who desires to rise to a level of personal or professional performance that they have not obtained before coaching is the way to do it.  Coaching provides an objective, non-judgmental framework,  a new perspective and view of the world the client lives and works in.

Rarely do we ask, “How can I get better at _________?”   Many people just drift through life hoping that something will change their life for the better.  It is living life passively that holds people back from the success they desire.   When someone takes an active and participative role their life changes for the better more often than not.   When a person decides that they can’t make changes alone and they would do better with some assistance, it is then that they can make superb progress in all areas of their life.

We are living our lives at a new speed, a speed that has increased dramatically over the past 10-15 years.    In this faster world we live in using the methods of the past to cope with change just isn’t enough anymore.    The speed of technology and innovation is pushing people their limits and most people are relying on the habits of the past to cope and it just isn’t working any longer.

Coaching may be the most effective method of managing the speed of change and preparing yourself for a better future.   Why wait until it is an emergency to make the changes you know you want to make.   Get a coach today, start raising your level of performance now so that you can create the future you desire.

What do you think?  What does coaching offer and it is the way to gain a competitive edge for the future?

What does worry cost you?   When you worry  you lose your power, you give it up, and it takes the joy out of today.    Think of worry as a thief, a thief that only robs you of your energy.     What are you worrying about right now?

One way to shift your mind from worrying about what might go wrong to thinking about what will go right.    If worry stops you in your tracks and shifts your thinking to “I can’t do _______________”, what would happen if you changed that to “I can do _______________”, instead?

Our society dwells on what can go wrong most of the time.   Think about the news you are listening to.   What was positive and uplifting in what you heard or watched?

We tend to use words like “don’t”, “watch out for”, “can’t” or some other negative view.   What would happen if you created sentences and thoughts that were powerfully supportive?   Think about what you can make happen.   Think about what you can do.   Think about what it will be like when you succeed.   Focus on the outcome you desire rather than the one you don’t want.

Take a look at Corrie’s quote about worry.  What does she say about worry, “it robs today of its strength”?    Here are some thing you can do.

1. Acknowledge the issue you face.   Say it out loud, “The problem is ___________”.

2. What can be done to solve the problem?   List out all the ideas you have.

3.  What one idea is something you can start today?

4. Focus on what you can do.   Focus on the result you want.

If you don’t know what you can do then create a mindmap and explore some ways to work out the worries.   Think about solutions to the problem and the positive outcome rather than what negative things could happen.

What can you do to worry less?