“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
Do you love the work you do?
Are you healthy?
Do you have great relationships with others?
Are you happy?
Are you doing what you love to do?
Do you look forward to each day?
Some people say “No” to each of those questions. They wake up in the morning and drag themselves out of bed. The think about exercise and say, “tomorrow”. The worry about who they will see at work, “Will they like me today?” ”Will my boss yell at me again?”
There are many, many people who aren’t happy with their lives and they don’t know why.
The hummingbird knows its purpose. They seem to be pretty happy when they are sipping nectar from flowers. The hummingbird knows its mission and vision with great clarity. So, why is it that we struggle to know our purpose?
Maybe you’re stuck in your life and have found that life feels more difficult or challenging than you want. Maybe you’re looking for happiness (sustained positive feeling – contentment but more) and you haven’t found it yet.
Perhaps you’re thinking I’ll get to it later when I have time. How do you know you’ll have time later? So much happens so quickly in the world today that tomorrow may never be the right time to find out what you are really here to do.
Listen to one person who speaks about purpose with passion, Tony Robbins. Go ahead do it now!
“Each person comes into this world with a specific destiny–he has something to fulfill, some message has to be delivered, some work has to be completed. You are not here accidentally–you are here meaningfully. There is a purpose behind you. The whole intends to do something through you.” Osho
What about you?
What do you do?
What do you want to do?
Who are you being?
What do you believe?
Why do you believe?
You … it’s your story. It’s your life.
You don’t do.
What do you say about you?
Who do you want to be?
You slow down.
You speed up.
What do YOU want to do?
“What you focus on expands, and when you focus on the goodness in your life, you create more of it. Opportunities, relationships, even money flowed my way when I learned to be grateful no matter what happened in my life.” Oprah Winfrey
What do you think of when you see or hear the word opportunity? Opportunity for you. What feelings are generated when you hear that word?
Opportunity is a word that generally elevates optimism and produces a sense of anticipatory positive outcomes. Opportunity for something better to happen in the near future. For some people it is like buying a lottery ticket with the hope that they will win the big prize and all their troubles will be over.
What opportunities are you seeking? What do you hope those opportunities will do for you?
Opportunity is all around us if we take the time to look. First we have to look within and find out what it is that will satisfy us and then look for opportunities that will accomplish that goal. For some people their career is virtually meaningless. Sure there is a paycheck but there is no meaning to the work they do and they stay there because of one thing a paycheck. There are many opportunities to do something that is meaningful and still have a paycheck.
How do you get more opportunity in your life?
1. Keep learning
2. Manage your emotions well
3. Listen more – talk less
4. Experiment – try new things (everywhere – choose something different from the menu of life).
5. Know your strengths
What can you today to create more opportunity in your life?
“Desire is the key to motivation, but it’s the determination and commitment to an unrelenting pursuit of your goal — a commitment to excellence — that will enable you to attain the success you seek.” Andretti, Mario
What causes you to get out of bed in the morning? It might be an obligation to do something, an obligation to another person, or an event. It might be easier to ask, what keeps you in bed in the morning. Maybe there isn’t anything compelling that would create the desire to get out of bed.
Activation energy is the term used that raises the energy to a level that allows us to get out of bed. The amount of energy that it takes to get out of bed is the same amount of energy that it takes to create change in your life. It is desire. What creates that desire?
Take a look at Tony Robbins talks about desire. It is a force that we have that once unleashed can create wonders.
Desire lives in an emotional well. If there is no way to tap into that well then we aren’t going to achieve the results we so desperately want. It takes time to dig the well deep enough to use those resources. Emotion fuels athletes, it fuels corporate executives, it fuels politicians, it fuels the nurse in the middle of the night, it fuels the crying baby, it fuels that dream that you have and it fuels life. Tap into your desires today!
What are you waiting for? Start now …
“When it’s time to die, let us not discover that we have never lived.” -Henry David Thoreau
“The unreal is more powerful than the real. Because nothing is as perfect as you can imagine it. Because its only intangible ideas, concepts, beliefs, fantasies that last. Stone crumbles. Wood rots. People, well, they die. But things as fragile as a thought, a dream, a legend, they can go on and on. If you can change the way people think. The way they see themselves. The way they see the world. You can change the way people live their lives. That’s the only lasting thing you can create.”
Chuck Palahniuk, Choke
Imagine and then believe.
It starts with an idea something as small as a spark and it can set into motion great movements. So often people get stuck and back away from living life full out. Rather than challenge each day they witness the day from behind the front lines of change. Where do you stand in the challenge of each day, on the forefront or in the background.
Take a look at this video clip and learn to understand what
belief can do. What can belief do for you?
What do you believe about yourself?
What do you believe about your abilities?
What do you believe about your dreams?
What do you need to change about your beliefs? Take the time to write the answers down and then take the time to reflect on what you believe.
What are your beliefs costing you?
How are your beliefs supporting you?
This year take time to check your beliefs and then push, pull and tug on those beliefs that will allow you to live the life you want to live. Take your beliefs to a higher level. Take your life to a higher level.
When? Today! Right now! It’s time to expand your life and challenge your beliefs.
“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them.” George Bernard Shaw
Excuses …. how many do you make in a single day? There is always a reason not to do something and that reason is most likely an excuse. Excuses become habits and habits become a way of life.
What is the origin of excuses? When people are feeling disempowered one way to recover that power is to redirect the negative energy towards something else. If there was no personal threat then excuses would never need to be uttered.
To live to your full potential excuses must be replaced by responsibility.
1.It is too hard
2. I don’t have the time.
3. I am not good enough
4. I don’t have the money
5. I’m not smart enough
6. I’m too old or I’m not old enough
7. I don’t have the experience
8. I’m afraid
9. I don’t deserve to be successful
Which excuse is your favorite? What popular excuse do you use on a regular basis?
When someone asks you what you really want to do, do you follow that up with, “I don’t have the time, …, it’s true”. What are you really saying when you say ,”it’s true”. Does the “it’s true” statement validate your excuse? Of course it is true for you. Why should it be that way? What would it take to counter the excuse?
What happens when we live behind the door of excuses? What do you think that does to your life?
For the next week write down all the excuses you make. Just notice them and write them down. At the end of the week, notice what excuses you were making and how often you were making them. What does that tell you?
Live without excuses.
“People who fail to achieve their goals usually get stopped by frustration. They allow frustration to keep them from taking the necessary actions that would support them in achieving their desire. You get through this roadblock by plowing through frustration, taking each setback as feedback you can learn from, and pushing ahead. I doubt you’ll find many successful people who have not experienced this. All successful people learn that success is buried on the other side of frustration.” Tony Robbins
On a scale of 1 to 10 (1 = low, 10 = high), what is your level of frustration? It could be any aspect of your life that is causing you some doubt, some fear and anxiety and that all leads to a certain amount of frustration.
For those who live with ADHD/ADD frustration is a common theme in their lives. Finding the career that matches their abilities is often hard to find and that uneasiness with work causes frustration. Imagine not being able to organize your day effectively or efficiently and then having little interruptions cycle in and out of the day, that adds to the frustration of just trying to get a day to work.
If you experience ADHD/ADD what are your biggest frustrations? What would you like to change in your life? And, what has worked for you? How do you get your life back under control when it seems like it is just going off on a long tangent?
Frustration just adds to the stress of life and if it isn’t managed it can easily push someone over their stress threshold. Once the stress threshold is exceeded then there is withdrawal, anger, sadness, and grief or a combination of those stress mechanisms.
So, what is frustrating you?
“The torment of human frustration, whatever its immediate cause, is the knowledge that the self is in prison, its vital force and “mangled mind” leaking away in lonely, wasteful self-conflict.” Elizabeth Drew
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“Most people never run far enough on their first wind to find out they’ve got a second. Give your dreams all you’ve got and you’ll be amazed at the energy that comes out of you.” William James
What are you learning today?
Where is your mind taking you?
On what journey do you want to go on?
“When the student is ready the teacher appears” is popular proverbs that illustrates that in all of our life when we are open to learning new things come to us to learn. We all have strengths and talents that are resident within us, for some untapped talents and strengths. When those strengths are unleashed all kinds of possibilities are made available to you.
Learning is possible even in the juncture of something that is going in the wrong direction. Maybe you have had those types of days where nothing was going right. Nothing, everything you touch seems to be flawed, wrong or incorrect. What make all of that wrong? Was it your choice or was it something someone else told you? When reviewed the moment what really was going on? Was it that bad? Probably not, it was probably something that wasn’t as good as it could have been, but in the very moment you were “doing” it was your best. Only upon reflection or review by someone else did it become less than what you had hoped it was.
What are thinking about yourself after one of these events occurs for you? What do you want to feel about yourself?
Now, what lesson did you learn after that moment of feeling crushed by someone else’s verbal blows? What could you change that would improve your outlook on life and in that relationship?
Tony Robbins shares, “I’ve come to believe that all my past failure and frustration were actually laying the foundation for the understandings that have created the new level of living I now enjoy.”, and that just helps us make better choices in the future.
Even in the trails and fires of the day there is something to learn, if the student is ready to learn the teacher (the circumstance, event, or happening) will be there in that moment. What will you be ready to learn?