“What can’t be seen is hard to change”, writes Daniel Goleman. That is one point of coaching to help expose what can’t be seen so that what isn’t being seen can come into the realm of being.
How often have we been exposed to one of our blind spots at a time that was not fun for us to experience? I’m sure it has happened, that someone brings up something we were totally unaware of and makes an issue of it. Well it shouldn’t have been an issue if you were aware of it.
When we reach some point in our life we get tired of holding putting on our “character armor” which hides our known flaws. Eventually that armor gets heavy and we grow tired of carrying it around. At that point we can decide to grow ourselves or grow with help. Growing with help (coaching) allows us to set real goals and work towards those goals. A coach helps encourage and acknowledge the successes that are being made and then reminds us of those goals that aren’t being attended to.
All this leads us to the world of risk and reward. To step into a coaching relationship requires taking a risk. If we were willing to take a risk earlier we would have likely achieved many of the goals that now are weighing us down. The reward is then the early step, the first step of risk and then towards the goal of achievement.
Elbert Hubbard said, “The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.”