Monthly Archives: June 2008

Marathon or one-hundred yard dash – your life?

Do you find yourself out of breath and energy at the end of the day? Does it feel like end-to-end sprints with no breaks in between?

How do you equate your standard of living? Is it by the amount of money you make or is it by the amount of time you have to make a quality life? We can have a high standard of living but a low quality of life. What is your preference?

What would you be willing to give up to improve your quality of life?

When we stop sprinting from thing to thing we begin to see things in life that we were missing before. We have the time to stop and say “Hello” to a friend. We have time to read a story to a child. We have time to sit back and contemplate the day. With enough time our life will stop being a series of mad dashes and will become a marathon – something we can sustain, something that will give us life and peace.

Frenetic pace or a peaceful pace, what would improve your quality of life?

“The most important question to ask yourself on the job isn’t “what am i getting?” but “what am i becoming?”

John Maxwell

Taking the first step

“I am here taking a stand for what is right. But now I am afraid.” Martin Luther King Jr.

What if we changed “I am here taking a stand for what is right” to “I am here taking a stand to improve my life.”? Martin Luther King Jr. recognized that taking a stand involved risk. Making a personal change in your life requires taking a risk as well.

When we write down our goals or even better than that make a commitment to someone else to reach our goals we are taking a stand for the better. To increase the likelihood of that change taking root we often need someone who will be our accountability partner.

You can change the world when you change. It is a twist on the words spoken by Gandhi, “You must be the change you want to see in the world.” When we start to make changes that are aligned with our purpose and strengths we can accomplish what we once thought impossible.

Humility is the first step towards transformational change. One form that humility takes is admitting that we can rarely change without some help. When we admit that we don’t know all that we need to know to make personal change happen we open the door for true transformational change. When we start telling the truth to ourselves about ourselves we open the floodgates for real and lasting change.

Are you ready to change?

Human – Being – what does it take in today’s world?

“Your gift lies in the place where your values, passions, and strengths meet.”

What does it mean to be human? What is the essence of human being? The human is a creator. A human has the ability to build and create something new and no other animal can do that. Humans live in a place that is touched by spiritual elements as well as physical elements. Being is important to us, as in being human, but what does that mean?

Perhaps the ultimate goal is balancing our physical needs and wants perfectly with our spiritual needs and wants. For many people there is an intense focus on either spiritual or physical needs and at the end of the day there is this sense that there should be something more. Too much physical needs and wants and life feels empty and void. Too much spiritual focus and the basic needs may not be met. The goal is harmony with the physical and spiritual components of our lives.

Don Aslett writes, “That which restricts our living, loving, thinking, and feeling is junk, be it a thing, habit, person, place or position. Anything that builds, edifies, enriches our spirit – that makes us truly happy regardless of how worthless it may be in cash terms – isn’t junk.”

What changes do you need to make to be more human?

Are your values clear?

What are your values?

Where do you stand on education (yours)?

How clear are you about your emotions? (Overly emotional, or lacking emotion)

What is your attitude about finances (borrower or saver)?

Is there a spiritual component to your life?

Are relationships important in your life?

Do you value family?

Do you value community?

Have you taken an assessment of the things that are important to you recently? Score your values from 1 to 5, 1 being not important to 5 being very important. Then grade those values from 1 to 5, 1 being not satisfied and 5 being very satisfied. Is the most important value graded highly or is it in need of some help?

If you have important values that are low scoring then what do you need to do to improve that value score? What is holding you back from getting a five on that value in terms of satisfaction?

When you wake up in the morning and look in the mirror do you see the person you want to see? Is the person you see a person of integrity? Does that person live a life that reflects their values?

Do you believe in yourself? Do you immerse yourself in positive thoughts? Do the words “I can” and “I will” dominate your thinking? Do you say to yourself “I can make a difference”, “I can change one thing today?”, and then do you go and do it?

Take a look at your values. Write them down. Score them for importance and for satisfaction. Look for those areas you want to change and begin setting the course for change.

What is Life Coaching?

Are you marching in place lacking the desire and energy to have your life come alive? Have you reached a plateau in personal or career performance? Do you see yourself looking out at a world and thinking you don’t fit?

Have you set goal after goal only to see each one of them disappear from your memory after a few days or weeks? Are you just growing tired of the constant daily battles that seem to rob you of strength, ideas and joy?

If life is like eating a stale cracker then it is time for a change. If there is no reason to get out of bed in the morning it is time for a change.

If you are thinking that there is more to life than what you have today then you are ready to have someone help you move beyond the barriers, the walls, and the complacency.

A life coach can help you chart a new course so that life can become all that it is meant to be.

Coach with HEART is accomplished by being Humble, Encouraging, Acknowledging Relational and Trustworthy, HEART.

The goal is to raise your personal performance bar a few notches and maybe more than a few, many notches higher. Can you see yourself filled with more energy, taking more risks, succeeding more often and enjoying the fruits of your work? I hope you can.

Make the leap

“If there’s no risk on your next project, don’t do it.”  Demarco & Lister

Think about that in terms of your own life.  We gain the most by taking risks.   If there are not risks what will we gain at the end of the day?    Not much!   Take a risk and do something that will cause you to grow.  

There should be just enough fear, just enough anxiety, just enough questions.    The risks should be big enough, bold enough to allow you to grow and flourish.   Learning and growing is based on taking risks.   Be bold today!

Me to We

Me to We is a book authored by Craig Kielburger and Marc Kielburger and I would recommend that people take the time to read it.

It makes the point that by giving of ourselves we can transform the world and in fact that is what Craig and Marc are doing with their “Free the Children” movement. In the book you’ll find stories of people who had nothing more than passion and will to create movements that are making a difference in the world.

These people sacrifice what they could gain in material wealth to give to those who have no wealth other than love.

As the authors write, “As reaching out to others began to transform our lives in positive ways, we began to understand how the decision to lend a hand to someone in need leaves everyone better off.”

We can move from “me” to “we” don’t you think?