“It is not enough to be compassionate. You must act. There are two aspects to action. One is to overcome the distortions and afflictions of your own mind … The other is more social, more public. When something needs to be done in the world to rectify the wrongs, if one is really concerned with benefiting others, one needs to be engaged, involved.” Dali Lama, ‘The path to tranquility’
Perhaps your path is not clear and you have been wandering about searching for the true you. Work isn’t doing it for you; in fact nothing in the current moment feels strong and compelling as it should. There is no magnetic pull to some mysterious goal; there is no pull at all.
Change the script you are reading from. That’s right, change the script. Rewrite the play. Play a bigger part, make your voice heard. Come alive. Become who you were truly meant to be.
What risks are you willing to take to rewrite your personal life script?
What bold steps can you take today?
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“When it comes to observing reality, people often do not see what is before their eyes. Instead, people see their concept of what reality should be. They are not seeing what is before their eyes, but rather what they expect to see.” Robert Fritz ‘The Path of Least Resistance”
There are many reasons to have a coach some of them are embodied in the statement by Robert Fritz. Unleashing creative energy to produce new solutions to old problems is difficult. Fritz writes, “Many people’s lives are inextricably tied to their problems. The majority of the actions they take are designed to eliminate the problems so they can be problem-free. But with all this action they still have problems. Some of these people have the same old problems, some develop new problems.” If we exchanged problem solving for creation and developing new possibilities the results will move us toward fulfilling our purpose which in turn will result in greater happiness.
What do you want to create?
Many people don’t know what they want and they search aimlessly trying to find what they don’t know they want. Without an external observer to question the current state there is little chance that the desired future state can be achieved. Perhaps small steps of progress can be made however entropy will always draw one back to the current state.
Creation starts from a blank slate rather than from a cause and effect view of a problem. Art is a good example of starting with a concept and breathing life into that concept that results in something new, something that was not envisioned previously.
What is the creative process?
1. Define the result you want to create.
2. Understand the existing landscape – what is out there?
3. Define and act
4. Understand the process, [concept, synthesis, finalization]
5. Establish a cadence and repeat the process.
What is it that you want to have come into existence?
What new you do you want to see?
What do you love enough that you wish to see it exist?
Today we start with the words of the Sufi poet
“We have not come here to take prisoners, but to surrender ever more deeply to freedom and joy… Run my dear from anything that may not strengthen Your precious budding wings… For we have not come here to take prisoners Or to confine our wondrous spirits But to experience ever and ever more deeply Our divine courage, freedom and Light!”
What are the desires of our heart? Is it to seek out and find freedom and joy?
I think that experiencing both trials and success brings to us a sense of joy and contentment. Contentment is momentary and calls us to the next challenge, the next struggle and the next climb we must make. Moments of happiness are interspersed into our journey and like precious gems hanging in the sky they beckon us onward, happiness blossoms along the way encouraging us to take the next step.
Joy is a reward that comes to us as a result of the struggles and the battles we are engaged with. Our deepest longing is to find joy in what we do and in life. At times we are stuck in the vastness of a giant maze wondering which path will lead us to joy. It is when we are stuck that having a guide to help us find our way is of so much value.
This is just a bit different. Breathe deeply the words echoed by those whose footprints we may be walking in.
Take a moment to reflect on your successes. What made them so? Look forward to the future, what will make it so?
“My mind is like a bad neighborhood, I try not to go there alone.” Ann Lamont
Our minds can keep us from doing the right things for ourselves. The use of self-talk to hold us back and keep us where we are today is a formidable challenge to overcome.
The quote by Ann Lamont is an indicator that we can’t go it alone in many cases. In some cases we need a guide or a coach to help us keep our minds from going down the path of negative self-talk.
A coach can act as an encourager and help bring back a conversation so that it focuses on what can be rather than what was and what didn’t work in the past. It is essential to focus on where we want to be rather than where we have been.
Fall forward. Sure there are going to be times where we can get bruised and feel uncomfortable but it is in those moments that we can grow. Growing to a better self is the kind of growth that brings about joy and happiness.
Is your mind like the bad neighborhood? Do you have someone to help you through that place that you don’t want to be alone in?
Gratitude is the lubricant for the soul. When we offer gratitude we begin to experience the positive aspects of life. Gratitude becomes a doorway into our inner being where joy can begin to do its work. Gratitude generates positive emotions with the outcome being that we desire to help others in need.
An interesting experiment was done a number of years ago that tested the gratitude theory. Researchers left a dime in the coin return of a pay phone. Those people who found the time were much more likely to help someone in need shortly thereafter. Those who didn’t find a coin in the coin return of the pay phone were much less likely to help someone. Consider for a moment that something as small as a thin dime encouraged people to go out of their way to help someone else.
“To speak gratitude is courteous and pleasant, to enact gratitude is generous and noble, but to live gratitude is to touch Heaven.” Johannes A. Gaertner
A powerful way to transform our day or week is to practice the attitude of gratitude. Provide authentic and genuine encouragement to those you work with and see if it makes your day lighter and their day brighter.
What things in your everyday life are you thankful for? Can you come up with just a few items?