Monthly Archives: December 2008

Reflect

“Each of us is here for a brief sojourn; for what purpose he knows not, though he senses it. But without deeper reflection one knows from daily life that one exists for other people.”  Einstein

“Knowing others is wisdom, knowing yourself is enlightenment.”  Lao Tzu

Take a moment and reflect on this past week.

What did you learn?

Did you thank someone?

Did you find joy in your week?

Did you find peace in your week?

Write down the high points from the past week?   Can you repeat them?

Take a deep breath – exhale – relax and refresh your mind.

Embrace uncertainty

 

We live in unique times.  We live in a time where uncertainty brushes everyone of us.   We live in a time when many are worrying about tomorrow like we can shift the dunes of time to our favor. 

If we are living a life of hope then we know that whatever tomorrow brings something good can come out of it.   Prepare to live a life of hope by creating a vision of the future that is strong,  vibrant and present.  In this vision of the future what part do you play?   What do you think the outcome could be if you put your energy and talents together and seek the dream?

“Look.  This is your world! You can’t not look.  There is no other world.  This is your world; it is your feast.  You inherited this; you inherited these eyeballs; you inherited the world of color.  Look at the greatness of the whole thing.  Look!  Don’t hesitate – look!  Open your eyes, don’t blink, and look, look – look further.” Chogyam Trungpa

How do you see the world?   What part do you want to play?

Finding meaning in joy and suffering

I don’t know how many people find meaning in suffering but it might just be that in suffering you discover more about yourself than you do when you are in a state of joy.   The questions are asked more often in suffering.  Questions of why – why me – why?  Perhaps that is the wrong question to ask.  When there is suffering the goal is to make it go away and that it does go away and in most cases it will.

When we experience joy more often than not we know it will subside overtime and go away.   It is unlikely that the question is asked how can I keep joy going when we are in a state of joy.   It seems as if we accept joy for what it is when it is present.

Business leaders try to examine the success of others so that they can apply that knowledge to their line of work in order to increase their chance of success or to increase their current success.  Now what would happen if individuals focused on improving their lives, their joy and their success, what do you think would happen?

Constant incremental improvement – constantly improve the joy in your life by focusing on what makes you filled with joy.

Try it!   Spend a few minutes each day and write down the things that were good – joyful.   Even if it is just one thing write it down and the next day try to find two things that were joyful.  You may have to work on making joy enter your life – try it!

In suffering try to find joy and it may mean helping someone else find joy.

Running in the human race

The human RACE … sometimes it feels like a race, a race that keeps getting faster and faster and faster and faster.   It is no wonder that so many people feel defeated and worn out being in the human RACE.

 

Racing around in every which direction, but racing to what end?   Who has stopped long enough to ponder what it means to be in this human race?   Where does it end?  What does it mean?    So, pause …. take a deep breath, and stop racing and start reflecting.   What did you miss today?   A birthday!   A word of kindness!  A word of encouragement!   A word of thanks!

 

At the end of the day what matters most – the race – or the relationships?

 

Try these questions.

Imagine if I truly made a difference in the world, what would I be doing?

Or

Imagine if  (fill in your greatest dream) then  _________________.

Or

Play imagine if with another person and their response would be the “then” phrase.

 

Example:

 

Imagine if I had a million dollars then I would build a home for the homeless.

Imagine if I built a home for the homeless then with the money I had left over I would buy them new clothes.

You can repeat the imagine if story until you can’t imagine any thing new.

 

What race are you in?   Are you making a difference?

Indecision

“Indecision is the seedling of fear”  Napolean Hill

Proper analysis before making a decision is wise.  Procrastinating over making a decision is paralysis.   Paralysis leads to doubt which steps over the edge into fear.  Reverse the process and extinguish doubt, free yourself of paralysis and make the decision a wise one.

There are six fears which cross our paths at one time or another.

1.   Poverty

2.   Criticism

3.   Failing health

4.   Relationships that quit working

5.   Aging

6.   Death

How do you conquer any item on that list?   What steps can you take to dissolve the fear component?  

What do you fear?   List them out?   Are they worries about what is to come or what has happened in the past?

plan to accomplish great things

“To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe.”  Anatole France

 

What do you want to accomplish?

 

What is your plan to get there?

Predictable Patterns

Our humanity rests upon a series of learned behaviors, woven together into patterns that are infinitely fragile and never directly inherited.” Margaret Mead

 

Continuing on with the theme of habits or predictable patterns what do you notice about your day that is totally a result of a pattern in your life?

Are there patterns in your life that are destructive?

For example are there things that just “set you” off, produce anger, irritation or high anxiety?   Can someone say something to you that reminds you of something unpleasant and instead of ignoring it begin to churn inside even to the point of saying something regretful?

We all have patterns in our lives.  Some patterns we should change for the betterment of self.   What patterns do you think you should change?

Some steps to take to figure out what patterns are in your life.

1.    Learn to observe yourself.   What are you doing?   Record it for a week or two.

2.    Which patterns create abundance and flow and which ones end up being criticisms of something or someone?

3.    Which patterns are predictable?   Someone who knows you could say “You will do this when /if _______”

4.    Have someone observe you.   What do they see?   Do you repeat time after time some phrase or action?