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habit breaking – habit forming

Breaking habits – changing habits

This is from the book “Mind Power” by Dan Custer


The topic is breaking habits and the steps that are needed to make new habits.

One point that is made about beginning new habits is that you need to find a way to reward yourself for the progress you’ll make.  Positive rewards reinforce the desired behavior that you are seeking.

So, what do you do?

1.       Start with conviction.  You need a powerful reason to being the change.

2.      Start, just start the process – don’t delay do it today.

3.      Prepare – make sure you have the resources at hand.  Prepare mentally and understand what it is you want to do.

4.      Initiate the process … do what you are going to do.

5.      Persist – be consistent, practice, practice and practice until it becomes a regular routine. 

6.      Acknowledgment – give credit to yourself for the progress made.  Continue with positive reinforcement for your efforts. 

Dan Custer writes that there are statements that you can use to help reinforce the changes you’d like to make.  For example repeating something like this,

“I am free. I know the truth about myself.  I am free to act.  The faculties of Life are mine to use.  My body is mine to direct.  My emotional power is mine to use.  Whatsoever the Father hath is mine.  I have power to consciously choose how I will use the power of Life for my own good.  I can direct my path to happiness, prosperity and health.  When I start a new plan of action, I persist until it becomes a habit.”


Free to act.  Free to respond.  Free to change.  Free to enjoy.  Free to be.

These things become real with positive change.

meaning is happiness

The Dalai Lama spoke these words, “I believe the very purpose of our life is to seek happiness.  That is clear.  Whether one believes in religion or not, whether one believes in this religion or that religion, we are all still seeking something better in this life.  So I think the very motion of our lives is towards happiness.”

Is happiness what you seek?


In other set of wise words Jacob Needleman wrote, “We are born for meaning, not pleasure, unless it is pleasure that is steeped in meaning.”

Two approaches to life, happiness and meaning.  Can you find happiness in meaning?  I think many, many people are seeking both happiness and meaning.   Finding meaning may result in happiness, what do you think?

If you are seeking happiness and found it elusive what were you seeking?

how we can grow

Tonight I am posting a few lines from Bertrand Russell.  It should make you think for a few minutes.  What can you do?   Where do you start making a difference in the lives of others?   Where do you start making a difference in your own life?

Much of what Russell writes is about the despair in life.   In his view life seemed to be a haunting experience.  

 Life doesn’t have to be the picture that Russell painted, it is a choice that can be made.  What do you think?

What I Have Lived For

“Three passions, simple but overwhelmingly strong, have governed my life: the longing for love, the search for knowledge, and unbearable pity for the suffering of mankind. These passions, like great winds, have blown me hither and thither, in a wayward course, over a deep ocean of anguish, reaching to the very verge of despair.

I have sought love, first, because it brings ecstasy – ecstasy so great that I would often have sacrificed all the rest of life for a few hours of this joy. I have sought it, next, because it relieves loneliness – that terrible loneliness in which one shivering consciousness looks over the rim of the world into the cold unfathomable lifeless abyss. I have sought it, finally, because in the union of love I have seen, in a mystic miniature, the prefiguring vision of the heaven that the saints and poets have imagined. This is what I sought, and though it might seem too good for human life, this is what – at last – I have found.

With equal passion I have sought knowledge. I have wished to understand the hearts of men. I have wished to know why the stars shine. And I have tried to apprehend the Pythagorean power by which number holds sway above the flux. A little of this, but not much, I have achieved.

Love and knowledge, so far as they were possible, led upward toward the heavens. But always pity brought me to earth. Echoes of cries of pain reverberate in my heart. Children in famine, victims tortured by oppressors, helpless old people a hated burden to their sons, and the whole world of loneliness, poverty, and pain make a mockery of what human life should be. I long to alleviate the evil, but I cannot, and I too suffer.

This has been my life. I have found it worth living, and would gladly live it again if the chance were offered me.”

  Bertrand Russell

giving back

“It is every man’s obligation to put back into the world at least the equivalent of what he takes out of it.”   Albert Einstein


What if …. What if we wanted to give back as much as we take out of the world?   What would the world be like?

a leader is

What is a leader to you?   Just a few ideas.   A leader is a lot of things.  So, what does leadership mean to you?  Are you a leader?   Are you a developing leader?  


A leader is

A leader is honest

A leader is transparent

A leader is an encourager

A leader is a visionary

A leader is a follower

A leader is a lamp holder

A leader is a spark

A leader is a learner

A leader is a knowledgeable

A leader is trusted

A leader is genuine

A leader is focused

A leader is a dreamer

A leader is a giver

A leader is a seeker

A leader is a humble

A leader is bold

A leader is believable

A leader is an influencer

A leader is in the turbulence

A leader is persistent

A leader is a listener

A leader is a healer

A leader is a path maker

A leader is willing

A leader is present

A leader is responsible

A leader is

you are powerful

William James wrote about man, “He possesses powers of various sorts which he habitually fails to use.”


If that quote is true then it means we have much more to offer the world, the country, the state, the city, the career, the family, the friends and yourself.  It means we aren’t living up to the capabilities we have.  It means we have more to give and we should.


What power do you have that you aren’t using?   What would you like to do?

What do you need to do to start using the powers you have?