Daily Archives: December 9, 2009

Programmed for

“First we make our habits, then our habits make us.”  Charles C. Nobel

We are programmed by things that have happened to us, or things  that have happened to those around us.   Eventually the things in life that have happened to us become our operating rules.    These rules try to protect us from having those events of the past pop back into our lives in the present.  Our rules become our personal safety net.  

If you want to be programmed for success you needs rules that support success.   Many people have rules that support failure, their own failure.    People live by rules that say “It can’t be done”, or “You are not good enough”.   These kind of rules limit who we can be and who we are.

Our daily attitude can be a result of the rules we have that govern our lives.

Have you ever talked to someone who couldn’t find a good thing in their lives?   Nothing in their life has worked out for their benefit might be a declaration they would make.    Some people live with rules that suggest that the world owes them something, and at a minimum the world owes them happiness.    Sadly the world doesn’t give people the happiness they believe they deserve, and  the world doesn’t give people success either.   The world only reflects back an image of who we are.   

What rules do you have that are limiting who you could become?

What are your rules for happiness?

What are your rules for success?

What are your rules for friendship?

What are your rules for relationships?

What are your rules for joy?

What are your rules for love?

Examine your rules.   Are  your rules serving  you and what you desire to become or are they restricting you from becoming all that you were meant to be?

Peyton Conway March  wrote, “There is a wonderful mythical law of nature that the three things we crave most in life — happiness, freedom, and peace of mind — are always attained by giving them to someone else.”