|“Live life fully while you’re here. Experience everything. Take care of yourself and your friends. Have fun, be crazy, be weird. Go out and screw up! You’re going to anyway, so you might as well enjoy the process. Take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes: find the cause of your problem and eliminate it. Don’t try to be perfect; just be an excellent example of being human.”|
One of the roadblocks to happiness is perfection, the belief that perfection in self must arrive in order to be happy. Tal Ben Shahar writes, “Those who intensely fear failing end up falling short of their potential.
Do you know of people who are so focused on achieving perfection that they can’t enjoy all the goodness life affords? These are the people who can’t achieve less than 100% in everything they do, to do less means that they have failed. In putting so much into being perfect (in their definition) they miss out on moments of joy.
A perfectionist lives in a world of expectation while the realist lives in the world as it exists. The realist accepts the moments of failure and uses them as lessons to grow from. The perfectionist sees moments of failure as the failure of the self. The realist would celebrate small victories while the perfectionist would never be satisfied.
|A perfectionist||A realist|
|Rejects failure||Accepts failure|
|Rejects painful emotions||Accepts painful emotions|
|Rejects success||Accepts success|
|Rejects reality||Accepts reality|
“The greatest mistake a man can make is to be afraid of making one.” Elbert Hubbard.
Material from “The pursuit of perfection” by Tal Ben Shahar
Will a perfect life lead to a happy life?