The inner critic is that little voice you hear in your head that says, “You can’t”, “You shouldn’t”, “You aren’t good enough”, “You’re not ….”. The inner critic exists to keep you safe from harm. When you were growing up your parents said, “No” to protect you from what they thought would harm you. Others said “No” as well. At some point in time the “ego” begins to believe the “No’s” as truth.
The “No’s” can start to show up even when there is no threat or potential harm that would occur if that very thing was done. A teacher yells at a student and kills their potential for learning. A friend tries to protect the relationship they have with you and makes suggestions that imply “No”. A co-worker says “No” to an idea that has potential and your voice goes silent. There are all kinds of “No’s” being thrown at you and most of them aren’t threats but you believe them to be true.
When the inner critic speaks what do you believe it is saying that is true?
“Up to a point a man’s life is shaped by environment, heredity, and movements and changes in the world about him. Then there comes a time when it lies within his grasp to shape the clay of his life into the sort of thing he wishes to be. Only the weak blame parents, their race, their times, lack of good fortune, or the quirks of fate. Everyone has it within his power to say, “This I am today; that I will be tomorrow.” Louis L’Amour