“We would rather be ruined than changed;
We would rather die in our dread
Than climb the cross of the moment
And let our illusions die.”
If it is important then why not make the change?
There are many, many people who are tired of what they are doing, tired of having things being a struggle all of the time. Work is harder. Relationships are on edge or broken. The career is stalled or falling apart. The weight that should have been lost is coming back. Each day it feels like the load gets heavier and heavier and looking at the news it doesn’t appear to be getting better soon.
Maybe someone has told you, “you need to change”, or “you should change”, and in your mind your thinking, maybe I do need to change. “I need to change …”, that doesn’t sound very empowering does it.
I have to change.
I need to change.
I should change.
I want to change.
I desire to change.
What statement is more like you?
Personal change is going to be very difficult if there isn’t a desire to change. Shifting the language to “want to” or “desire to” is going to be much more enabling than “need to” or “should” change or “have to” change.
Until there is a point where you tell yourself “I want to” make changes in my life, change is unlikely to happen or to be sustained. Change doesn’t happen until you want change to happen. Take a look at this change guide (link is located on the page). What would do you want to change? Really, what do you want to change? Not should change, not need to change , not have to change, but desire or want to change?
“The future is not a result of choices among alternative paths offered by the present, but a place that is created–created first in the mind and will, created next in activity. The future is not some place we are going to, but one we are creating. The paths are not to be found, but made, and the activity of making them, changes both the maker and the destination.” John Schaar