“Transparency means radical authenticity, free from ego defenses and impure motives. It’s the ultimate challenge to the ego. You could sit on a meditation cushion until you dropped dead and never have your capacity for radical transparency tested. The real test, for all of us, is in relationship. Come together. When there’s radical transparency and the ego steps aside, each single individual in that extraordinary collective context has access to the power and depth and clarity of the enlightened mind. And that’s when enlightenment really starts to take on new meaning and significance for us all.” Andrew Cohen
Like the iceberg most people only expose a small amount of who they really are. Being transparent is being honest, it is being authentic, it is being genuine, and it is being open. That may sound like a lot to do, to be transparent, to be real.
Transparency matters in any relationship and without it trust erodes and when people hide more and more of themselves they eventually destroying the relationship. For some there is a belief that if they hide just one thing no one will ever know and that they can keep this secret to themselves. As Rep. Weiner found out transparency (being honest, being forthright, being open) is important.
What does the transparent leader look like?
What does the transparent man or woman look like?
Maybe it looks like,
a. Acknowledge any mistake, find out what the lesson is.
b. Examine what there is to learn from a mistake or misjudgment.
c. Recover from the mistake gracefully, and make things right.
d. Forgive yourself, let go of the past.
e. Let it go. Mistakes happen, learn, recover, let go.
What would it mean to others to say, “I made a mistake”?
What would it mean to others to say, ” I am here to listen not to judge”?
Transparency lets others see what is below the surface, it lets them see who you really are. Transparency is stronger than the fear of revealing any flaw or crack you may have in your character. The person who is transparent will be stronger than those that aren’t, because when everyone can see who you are and there is nothing to hide there is also nothing to expose.
People who come to a coach want to work through an issue so that they can move forward have to be willing to be transparent. Being open, being honest and being vulnerable allows the client to grow. When a client knows they won’t be judged for being transparent it means that they are free to get to the core issue that is stopping them from achieving their goals.
Being transparent allows you to grow.
What is the lack of transparency costing you?
“You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead pursue the things you love doing and then do them so well that people can’t take their eyes off of you.” Maya Angelou