Daily Archives: July 11, 2011

asking for help .. a sign of weakness?

“Whenever I have knocked, a door has opened. Whenever I have wandered, a path has appeared. I have been helped, supported, encouraged and nurtured by people of all races, creeds, colors and dreams. ” Alice Walker

We live in a society that revere’s independence and strength, a society that says “I can do it” and we believe it to be true.   Asking for help then is admitting you don’t have what it takes to get it done.   It is that idea of rugged independence that holds so many people back from asking, “can you help me?”.

Asking for help has been or is a sign of weakness for far too many people.   As a result not asking for help has left people stuck for long periods of time.   “I am not going to ask for help because I can do it.”, says many a man.   Asking for help is often the right thing to do.  It accelerates the desired result.   It frees you up to do other things, more important things.

What is it costing you not to ask for help?   For many people life is just way to short as it is and to achieve the very things they desire most (pride isn’t going to get in the way) asking for help to get there is one of the first things they do.  They realize that the cost of a mentor, coach, guide or teacher is far less than the cost of missing opportunities for creating the life they want to live.

We do the same thing with retirement.  Some people start saving  in their 20’s and by the time they are 62 they can have a large saving account in place due to the fact that their money is gaining interest each year.   There are those who wait until later and have to pay over twice as much to reach the same goal.   The truth is that if you start early (ask for help now) you’ll get much further much quicker than waiting.

Why is it that people wait until it is unbearable before they decide to make the changes they want?   It might be the belief that something will happen that will allow them to get the result they want sooner and that rarely happens.   For example think about the person who is lost and won’t stop to ask for help.   Their appointment is now just five minutes away and they not even close to the destination.   Maybe the next street will be the right place they think, and it isn’t and now they are just getting frustrated and more frustrated.   It would have taken far less time to ask for help and arrived at the destination early.

What is it that you want to do?   What are you waiting for?

If you don’t know how to get where you want to go then ask for help?   Not sure what you want to do then ask for help?   Each day you wait is a day you can’t get back.

Asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness it is a sign of strength.   Why wait another moment, start getting more out of your life today.


“Procrastination is opportunity’s assassin.”  Victor Kiam