“But, I can’t” … you’ve heard this before, maybe those are the words you uttered as well, “I can’t ….”, and if you ask why you might hear the words that are tied to a fear. Often the words “I can’t” are spoken before there is any conscious thought. It is as if “I can’t” rolls off the tongue with a high degree of practice, and it does.
What does “I can’t” speak to? It speaks to fear, a fear of failure, a fear of success or a fear of loss. “I can’t” really says I am not ready to make a change in my life because I am afraid of what the result could be and that result could be less favorable than I desire. (It might cost money I don’t have, or It might cause me to lose something I can’t afford to lose right now, or It might make me feel bad, or It might make me look bad, or …. ).
In many cases there are words that we speak that we don’t create but rather words that are spoken in reaction to an event or a thought. When our language becomes a reflex rather than a response we have trained our brain to do something without thinking about it. It happens every day. If you drive a car there is a lot of the driving process which has been pushed out of conscious thought to the point that driving can be unconscious. (Think about the last time you drove somewhere and don’t remember the journey).
Let’s say you have made a declaration to create success in your life. To do that means that you are choosing the unknown. To make a large shift in your life will push you in a direction in which you are not familiar and that generates fear. To make steps forward means stepping into areas in which you have little or no experience and means making a choice to live consciously by making small effective choices to advance you in the direction you want to go.
To shift from unconscious living to conscious living is having an important goal, a goal that can become a driving force in your life. What is your big goal that you are working towards? Are you letting your programmed response to life stop you or are you taking the steps you need to take to grow and succeed?