Monthly Archives: December 2011

Expressions

“Challenging the meaning of life is the truest expression of the state of being human.”    Viktor E. Frankl

Floral Expressions
The expressions of flowers, dancing in colorful symphony.

Musical Expressions
Musical tones that are set to amaze.

Visual Expressions
A magical light show.

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magical moments …

 One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon-instead of enjoying the roses blooming outside our windows today. Dale Carnegie

What would happen if you created “magic” everyday?   Not the kind of magic that is filled with smoke and mirrors, but the kind of magic that brings a smile to your face, a moment of joy and happiness, that kind of magic.

What would it take to make the day more exciting and enjoyable for you?

How about some ideas?

1. Get some flowers and give it to a random person,  anyone and surprise them.

2. Smile at a stranger.

3. Buy a lunch for an elderly person.

4. Take the cook the who cooks all the meals at a  homeless shelter out for lunch.

What ideas do you have?  What things could you do to make a magical moment?
Now don’t just think about it, go do it.  Make it happen.
Who do you know that is unemployed?    Give them a big box of toilet paper.
Who do you know that is struggling with each day?    Give them a hug.
Who do you know that has just gone through a divorce?   Throw them a party.

Connect with those who are struggling and make their day better in some way.
Make it fun and memorable, make it magical.

 It is the function of art to renew our perception. What we are familiar with we cease to see. The writer shakes up the familiar scene, and, as if by magic, we see a new meaning in it. 

Anais Nin

what one thing?

“When we see the need for deep change, we usually see it as something that needs to take place in someone else. In our roles of authority, such as parent, teacher, or boss, we are particularly quick to direct others to change. Such directives often fail, and we respond to the resistance by increasing our efforts. The power struggle that follows seldom results in change or brings about excellence. One of the most important insights about the need to bring about deep change in others has to do with where deep change actually starts.”  Robert E. Quinn

One thing

If you were to change one thing in your life what would it be?

Send me an email – coachwithheart@gmail.com and tell me what that one thing is you’d like to change.     Go ahead do it now.

Celebrate by bringing something new into your life.

why coaching matters …

“The sort of coaching that fosters effective innovation and judgment, not merely the replication of technique, may not be so easy to cultivate. Yet modern society increasingly depends on ordinary people taking responsibility for doing extraordinary things: operating inside people’s bodies, teaching eighth graders algebraic concepts that Euclid would have struggled with, building a highway through a mountain, constructing a wireless computer network across a state, running a factory, reducing a city’s crime rate. In the absence of guidance, how many people can do such complex tasks at the level we require? With a diploma, a few will achieve sustained mastery; with a good coach, many could. We treat guidance for professionals as a luxury—you can guess what gets cut first when school-district budgets are slashed. But coaching may prove essential to the success of modern society.

There was a moment in sports when employing a coach was unimaginable—and then came a time when not doing so was unimaginable. We care about results in sports, and if we care half as much about results in schools and in hospitals we may reach the same conclusion. Local health systems may need to go the way of the Albemarle school district. We could create coaching programs not only for surgeons but for other doctors, too—internists aiming to sharpen their diagnostic skills, cardiologists aiming to improve their heart-attack outcomes, and all of us who have to figure out ways to use our resources more efficiently. In the past year, I’ve thought nothing of asking my hospital to spend some hundred thousand dollars to upgrade the surgical equipment I use, in the vague hope of giving me finer precision and reducing complications. Avoiding just one major complication saves, on average, fourteen thousand dollars in medical costs—not to mention harm to a human being. So it seems worth it. But the three or four hours I’ve spent with Osteen each month have almost certainly added more to my capabilities than any of this.”  by   Read more

The above paragraphs are from a much longer article in the “New Yorker” magazine in which a surgeon describes the benefits of having a coach.    Like athletes or anyone who desires to rise to a level of personal or professional performance that they have not obtained before coaching is the way to do it.  Coaching provides an objective, non-judgmental framework,  a new perspective and view of the world the client lives and works in.

Rarely do we ask, “How can I get better at _________?”   Many people just drift through life hoping that something will change their life for the better.  It is living life passively that holds people back from the success they desire.   When someone takes an active and participative role their life changes for the better more often than not.   When a person decides that they can’t make changes alone and they would do better with some assistance, it is then that they can make superb progress in all areas of their life.

We are living our lives at a new speed, a speed that has increased dramatically over the past 10-15 years.    In this faster world we live in using the methods of the past to cope with change just isn’t enough anymore.    The speed of technology and innovation is pushing people their limits and most people are relying on the habits of the past to cope and it just isn’t working any longer.

Coaching may be the most effective method of managing the speed of change and preparing yourself for a better future.   Why wait until it is an emergency to make the changes you know you want to make.   Get a coach today, start raising your level of performance now so that you can create the future you desire.

What do you think?  What does coaching offer and it is the way to gain a competitive edge for the future?

Worry … is it worth it?

“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength.”
Corrie ten Boom

What does worry cost you?   When you worry  you lose your power, you give it up, and it takes the joy out of today.    Think of worry as a thief, a thief that only robs you of your energy.     What are you worrying about right now?

One way to shift your mind from worrying about what might go wrong to thinking about what will go right.    If worry stops you in your tracks and shifts your thinking to “I can’t do _______________”, what would happen if you changed that to “I can do _______________”, instead?

Our society dwells on what can go wrong most of the time.   Think about the news you are listening to.   What was positive and uplifting in what you heard or watched?

We tend to use words like “don’t”, “watch out for”, “can’t” or some other negative view.   What would happen if you created sentences and thoughts that were powerfully supportive?   Think about what you can make happen.   Think about what you can do.   Think about what it will be like when you succeed.   Focus on the outcome you desire rather than the one you don’t want.

Take a look at Corrie’s quote about worry.  What does she say about worry, “it robs today of its strength”?    Here are some thing you can do.

1. Acknowledge the issue you face.   Say it out loud, “The problem is ___________”.

2. What can be done to solve the problem?   List out all the ideas you have.

3.  What one idea is something you can start today?

4. Focus on what you can do.   Focus on the result you want.

If you don’t know what you can do then create a mindmap and explore some ways to work out the worries.   Think about solutions to the problem and the positive outcome rather than what negative things could happen.

What can you do to worry less?

 

 

It’s about time

‘Until you value yourself, you will not value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.”   M. Scott Peck

Lost Goals

Many people are putting together thoughts about what they will do “next” year.   In January there are all kinds of plans that are set in motion and in a short amount of time the momentum has turned into a trickle of energy.    The ideas, the dreams and the thoughts of achieving something remarkable blend into the cacophony of everyday life.   The dreams fade, the goals vanish as well as the energy to make life vivid.

Fading Dreams

Why do dreams fade faster than a western sunset?   It might be all the noise that surrounds daily life.  Those little energy drainers that suck just enough out of each day that when it is time to dream and to think of big goals there just isn’t anything left.   It is those life leeches that attach themselves to our lives and continually suck the dream out of us.

Finding Energy

Distractions eat away at the energy to do what you really want to do and eventually there is nothing but distractions and there is little time for focus and doing the things that move you forward.   What are the distractions in your life?

Write down what is distracting you and rate them from 1 – 10 in terms of the energy that they take away from you.   Which distractions can you dispose of?  What can you just get rid of today?

Forget it

There is stuff coming at you from all angles.  Some of the stuff is useless and yet there may be a tendency to hang on to it.  How much of the email you receive each day is of no value at all?   More than one message for sure.

If there is no request that you have to respond to in the email message and the value of the information is low, get rid of it, don’t file it, just flush it and forget it.

File it

Sometimes there are things that are informational, that will have value in the near future.  It might be something that you are passionate about that you can use to move you forward towards you goals.   Even though the material isn’t useful for you today it could be shortly.   File those things and get it out of your mind.

Finish it

Now if you have filed or put it in the trash you should only have things left that are directly related to you achieving your goals.   Now it is time to work on those goals and get them done.  Now that all the distractions have been dealt with all you have left is you and the goal, finish it.

Do it

It does seem like the best time is the New Year to start on a getting life in order.  Why wait?   What is the benefit of waiting?   There is no benefit of waiting.  The time to take action is today, not tomorrow, not after the holidays, not later, it is today, right now.    The right time is right now.   Toss aside the excuses and engage in doing what will bring you positive results today.

Look at simpleology.com and use a tool to help you focus on what you really want.  Decide on what you want to do and start doing it.  Use a tool to track your progress or send you reminders.   Have someone hold you accountable for getting you closer to what you want.   Procrastinate not a minute longer.  Right now, take that first step and start doing what it will take to experience a better life for you.

“A year from now you will wish you had started today.”
Karen Lamb