“The unreal is more powerful than the real. Because nothing is as perfect as you can imagine it. Because its only intangible ideas, concepts, beliefs, fantasies that last. Stone crumbles. Wood rots. People, well, they die. But things as fragile as a thought, a dream, a legend, they can go on and on. If you can change the way people think. The way they see themselves. The way they see the world. You can change the way people live their lives. That’s the only lasting thing you can create.” Chuck Palahniuk, Choke
Believe! What do you believe about yourself?
I believe I am ________________________.
What would you put in that sentence stem? What do you believe? What do you want to believe about yourself? I have found that many people tend to believe on the worst thing about themselves. Many believe things such as “I am not good enough”. Those words ripple through their body and stun their soul into inaction. How can you do great things if you don’t believe that you can?
“I am not good enough”, it impacts all areas of life. What would it be like if those words didn’t echo in your mind like a stray bullet? What would it be like to say “I am good enough” and believe it? What would that mean to you?
What would it feel like to shift the message that rings around in your head to something that would shift your confidence and belief in yourself to something positive and beneficial?
Here are some steps to take to shift the internal messages to something that will bring about confidence.
1. Think about a time you were successful and think about what it felt like.
2. Sink negative messages with new words of “I can”.
3. Face the fear and send it on its way. That is examine the fear you feel and test it. Is it real or is it a belief you have. If it is a belief replace the belief with facts rather than fiction.
4. Be present. Focus on what you can do right now.
5. Write down and capture your feelings and understand what is behind them.
It takes practice to shift your dominant thoughts from “I am not good enough” to “I am good enough”.
“As long as you have life and breath, believe. Believe for those who cannot. Believe even if you have stopped believing. Believe for the sake of the dead, for love, to keep your heart beating, believe. Never give up, never despair, let no mystery confound you into the conclusion that mystery cannot be yours.”
Mark Helprin, ‘A Soldier of the Great War’