It fits neatly between the past and the future. It is the space between the not yet and history, it is what we call “Now” and it is a very precious moment. Now is always moving in some direction for some people it is forward and for others it is a link to the past.
Some people move from “Now” into the past, a past filled regrets, anger, and disappointment. They are so comfortable in the past that they can’t move out of it, they are friends with yesterday. For those who are stuck in the past we are likely to call them victims. For the victim life is about “getting” comfort from others and it is a way to survive and receive empathy. While there is a benefit from living in the past as a victim it isn’t a place of strength and vitality. Living a life in the past is more like living in a cage, safety being on the inside but there is no freedom in living in the past.
There are some people who live in the future, a future that is filled with dreams of what can be or a future that is filled with anxiety and fear. Living in fear (panic attacks, high anxiety) diminishes the quality of life. People living alone without a strong support structure can project themselves into an uncertain future and increase the chances of having panic attacks.
The past or the future is not the place to cultivate happiness. Happiness occurs in the “now”. While we can have fond memories of the past that brings to us feelings of joy, these feelings often only pull us back into a place of “life was better then …”. Now is the time and place for happiness and because it happens in the moment it often feels elusive. As soon as you think about your happiness you are shifting your state of consciousness to a different time perspective. Happiness in the moment is something that is and it takes no thought.
Now is the place where creation unfolds. Now is the place the memories bloom. Now is the place that dreams are fashioned. Many people refer to “now” as being present, not being in the past or in the future but being right in the moment, fully alive and fully energized.
Where do you find yourself, in the present, in the past or in the future?
In this video the Dalai Lama talks about how our emotions are the source of our problems, and it is our emotions that impact our ability to be happy, to be present, to be in the “now”. What do you think?
“Let us not look back in anger, nor forward in fear, but around in awareness.” James Thurber