“We’re never so vulnerable than when we trust someone – but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy.”
Trust sits at the foundation of relationships. Relationships are the core of all that we do in life. All of life is based on relationships and at the base of those relationships is trust. Without trust there isn’t really a relationship.
Without trust a relationship is just a group of people interacting. With trust a relationship is about a team and teamwork and receiving the best of what the team has to offer.
Without trust people hold back, they don’t put in their full selves into their work, their relationships, their marriage, their friends or anything for that matter. It is a well known fact that people don’t put their full effort into the work they do, they hold back for many reasons and one of the big reasons is trust. Why say what you really believe if that belief is going to be ridiculed or worse. Why become vulnerable if you know that the other person, the other side has no interest in what you have to say.
It takes strength of character to trust and to trust authentically. Being vulnerable and sharing something that exposes a weakness can be used as a weapon if there isn’t trust, trust that information shared is not used in a negative way. In other words when people judge others trust is eroded. People want to feel safe in a relationship and if they share their deepest fears or secrets they want those fears to be kept private and not to be judged by their fears.
If organizations cultivated trust and allowed people to express themselves freely those organizations could experience greater participation, greater productivity, and better results. Cultures that use retribution or intimidation to manage people would have to radically change. Leaders would have to start leading and express their fears and vulnerabilities before trust could trickle down through all levels of the organization. High performing cultures have recognized that trust is an essential ingredient for success.
What is the level of trust in the organization you work for?
What is the level of trust in your closest relationship?
What would need to change?