“Remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure.”
― Paulo Coelho
Confidence or competence …
Getting the right job and staying in the right job requires two things, confidence and competence. Confidence comes from practice and all too often people expect great things without practice. Practice build competence and competence builds confidence when there is positive feedback, when there is success in the practice.
Take a look at the Olympic athletes they made the Olympic team after hours and hours, weeks and weeks of practice and competition. Practice builds competence and then confidence follows when the practice is reviewed and evaluated. Find out what you learned after each practice session. Find out what worked well and what could be improved.
To build confidence and competence start out with an objective. What is it that you want to get better at? What would allow you to have a better career, a better relationship, a better image of yourself, a better financial situation or a better life. What is it that you are willing to work on so that you can start getting the results you want?
Objective. What will need to change? What new skills will you need? What improvements in the skills that you already have? Identify what it is and then figure out what it will take to move you to the level you desire to be at. If it is losing weight then look at the objective and decide what will get you to the desired weight. Is it eating less? Is it more exercise? Is it having someone hold you accountable to your goals? Or is it someone who is willing to share the experience with you, someone who will cheer you on?
Practice. This is the doing part of the process. It is the hard work and it takes discipline and effort to get results. Be patient and be consistent.
Feedback. After you practice evaluate what you are learning. Improve what you are practicing by honest fair feedback about the progress you are making. What small changes can you make to improve the results of your practice.
Competence. Over time you’ll notice that you are getting better that you are getting small but consistent improvements and moving towards your goal. You are getting more and more competent.
Confidence. With competence comes confidence. Confidence gives a feeling of “I can”. With more practice it the confidence is bigger than “I can” it is automatic. It turns into unconscious competence. You no longer have to think about what you are doing, it is automatic, it is part of your being, the unshakable knowledge that you can do it consistently.
Here’s a talk that helps you see that picture of confidence. Take a look.