“As long as we continue to live as if we are what we do, what we have, and what other people think about us, we will remain filled with judgments, opinions, evaluations, and condemnations. We will remain addicted to putting people and things in their “right” place.”
― Henri J.M. Nouwen
There is a battle going on in your mind. It’s the voice of doubt, the voice of fear, the voice of perfectionism, the voice of the victim, the voice of the over-achiever and others. What voice do you hear when you are ready to make a change in your life?
The voice you hear wants to stop you and in most cases it does. It stops dreams, goals, and desires from being realized. Just a small amount of doubt will stop people from doing something big in their life and push them back into mediocrity. When you challenge yourself, when you want to make a change, what do you hear, experience and feel?
Shirzad Chamine the author of “Positive Intelligence” labels the voices. Meet the voice of the saboteur:
1. The stickler, looking for perfection
2. The pleaser, gaining acceptance and affection, a rescuer
3. The hyper-achiever, performance means self-respect, external success driven
4. The victim, inwardly focused, blames others, seeks attention, gives up easily
5. The hyper-rational, data driven, arrogant, without feelings, aloof
6. The hyper-vigilant, anxious, always on guard, doubt filled, suspicious
7. The restless, seeking something better, busyness, rarely at peace, scattered, lacks focus.
8. The controller, desire to take charge and control situations, impatient
9. The avoider, puts off challenging tasks, passive-aggressive behavior.
Which one do you hear most often? Which one is the loudest?
Change happens when you are able to quiet the voice of the saboteur and listen to the voice of the sage.