“The sage produces without possessing, acts without expectations, and accomplishes without abiding in her accomplishments. It is precisely because she does not abide in them that they never leave her.”
― Lao Tzu
Our brain influences more powerfully with negative messages. Have you noticed those days when your energy levels just seem to be depleted? What makes one day significantly different from any other day? What engages you so that you have energy?
Your thoughts play a big part in how much energy you have and how you feel. The good part is that you can change your thoughts at any time. You’ve already done this before, you’ve turned a lot of negative energy (anger) into neutral energy in a second. In flash you can go from angry to kind and kind to angry. You can go from being filled with energy to feeling totally drained. What changed?
Bad news. Someone conveys bad news to you and suddenly a sense of fear or loss stirs within you. Just before that you were energized, happy and motivated and in an instant it drained away.
Would it be a true statement to say that all of your negative feelings, lack of energy is self-generated? Your energy (or lack thereof) doesn’t come from the circumstances you face, but rather to the attention you give the circumstances and judge as good or bad, favorable or unfavorable.
You have the ability to tap into your positive energy by noticing that you have within you a capacity for empathy, exploration, innovation, direction and action. Putting a focus on each of those five elements enables you to build internal energy.
The first step to reducing energy zapping moments is to acknowledge those moments. This isn’t a time to judge the event. It is a time to notice the event and looking at it without a filter of being either good or bad, just notice it as an event. “this event took place and I feel ____________”.
When you focus on the event with judgement it clouds your ability to look for opportunity in the event. In other words it narrows the focus to a point where all the energy is focused on one thing … “you”. Depending on the state of mind you are in that high focus could be negative or positive energy. The likelihood of having a negative feeling is far greater than having a positive one.
To activate the positive, consider approaching the negative circumstances you experience in a new way. Consider treating yourself with a dose of empathy. Look for new ways to interpret your feelings. Develop a new story, a story that has the ability to energize you. Look for the opportunity in the situation. Turn the energy into positive action. Do something creative with your energy.
To take this topic a bit further listen to Chamine Shirzad explain the concepts of Positive Intelligence. Find something you can do today to implement a part of PI in your life.