“Self-leaders are still true leaders even if they have no known followers. True leaders inspire by the influence of their characters and general self-made brands. Leadership is defined by the virtues of one’s behaviour.”
― Israelmore Ayivor
Are you a leader? If you said, “No”, think again. Everyone is a leader even if they only lead themselves. There are two leaders within you, the tyrant and the creator.
The tyrant is a leader who berates themselves and others. Someone who demands action and rules with an iron fist. They don’t give room for error or excuse, just the perfect results. This type of leader may get results for a while but the people around them will start to leave and find others to work with or associate with. The tyrant leader is the leader who practices little or no “self-compassion“, and has little or no compassion for others? The tyrant leader expects people to play by the rules, even the unspoken or unwritten rules and a violation of the rules will lead to punishment.
The creator leader is a leader that has ideas and ambitions but allows others to contribute. The creator leader listens more than they speak. They enable the best out of themselves and others. They get results that are bigger than they expect, others engage and want to contribute. The creator leader encourages others and themselves to look at opportunity as a challenge that can be overcome rather than being overcome by the challenge.
Which type of leader are you? Are you the one who demands and cajoles action? Are you the one who encourages and inspires? Listen to your own internal self-talk and listen to the words you use on yourself. Are they positive, are they filled with hope and opportunity, challenge and optimism? Are they negative and berating, condescending and humiliating? Which leaders voice do you hear?
The authentic leader is going to lead from the inside as well from the outside with the same language, same attitude and the same respect. The authentic leader is going the be the leader that gets the best results (internally and externally).
How do you know what type of leader you are?
The tyrant will
1. make demands.
2. have all the answers
3. not listen
4. speak first
5. push others out
The creator will
1. listen first
2. ask questions
3. encourage and support
4. bring others in
5. makes requests
How do you lead yourself? How do you lead others? Have you ever asked others how you lead?
When you are at home, how do you lead? Do your questions enable others to act or do your demands force people to act? How does that impact the relationships you have with others.
Think about how you lead and then think how you can lead better.
“Those who mistrust their own abilities are being too wicked to themselves, discouraging themselves from doing what they should have been excelling in. If you are good at discouraging yourself, you can’t be a good leader because leadership is built on inspiring others to face challenges.”
― Israelmore Ayivor