“And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.”
Yes, you do have a problem. The problem is being authentic and not pretending to be someone you are not. It happens at work, it happens at home, it happens almost everywhere you go. Being authentic, being who you really are is difficult to do when you are trying to meet the expectations of others. The lack of authenticity shows up at work as doing what you don’t really want to do and doing it because you have to. It rubs against the very nature of who you are and slowly you change the work to match your strengths.
Personal relationships can be ruined by the lack of authenticity as well. Marriages will fail if the partners hide behind inauthentic behaviors. Saying one thing and doing another or pretending to be a person you are not just to prevent loneliness creates a new set of problems that will need to be dealt with. It takes courage to be authentic and reveal the real issues that one faces to others.
For those who can be authentic is the reward of freedom and happiness. The amount of work that it requires to hide from your own reality creates a great deal of internal stress and unhappiness. Fear keeps people from being authentic and fear is what creates the masks of deception.
So, what are your problems? What masks are you hiding behind? What is it costing you?