“Over the years, I have come to realize that the greatest trap in our life is not success, popularity, or power, but self-rejection. Success, popularity, and power can indeed present a great temptation, but their seductive quality often comes from the way they are part of the much larger temptation to self-rejection. When we have come to believe in the voices that call us worthless and unlovable, then success, popularity, and power are easily perceived as attractive solutions. The real trap, however, is self-rejection. As soon as someone accuses me or criticizes me, as soon as I am rejected, left alone, or abandoned, I find myself thinking, “Well, that proves once again that I am a nobody.” … [My dark side says,] I am no good… I deserve to be pushed aside, forgotten, rejected, and abandoned.” Henri J.M. Nouwen
The answer is “No!” and you’ve heard this several times in the past week and you believe that it isn’t the question, it is you that is being turned down. “No” can feel like rejection if it is heard enough times. Is that true? Is it true that a response to your request that is not favorable to you is a rejection of you?
Often people find that when there request is denied that it feels like they are being rejected. The wonderful idea that was rejected was a compilation of many hours of work, and how dare someone say “No” to the idea, project or design. It just can’t be right, turns into I am not right. What is rejection? Is it saying “No” or is it saying something else?
There are many people who fail to achieve their best because they feel they will be rejected. So instead of living fully, they live a life or regret.
Wouldn’t it be better to find out if you could create the life of your dreams? Wouldn’t it feel better to try and see what could be done?
Believe in “who” you are and accept a “No” with thanks.