“Now is the only time you have. Change is happening. Give up your desire to control the world”
― Kelly Martin
How many times have you tried to take control of your life or someone else’s life and it just didn’t work? Perhaps you took control of a project that you were working on and things didn’t turn out the way you expected. In order for you to get the things you want you had to be in control and that worked until it didn’t.
The more you try to control things the less you really do. Control is like pushing against a brick wall with the hope that it will soon give way to your urging. The wall doesn’t move and you use up a lot of energy in the process.
The path to increased control is through surrendering. Eliminating the need to control all aspects of your life will permit you achieve more in less time. If you’re stuck in traffic and no one is going anywhere getting upset and desiring control won’t get you moving. Surrendering your emotions to the moment allows you to have some peace even at zero miles per hour.
If control creates stress and it usually does when things aren’t going the way you want then as the stress increases your ability to think clearly and rationally decreases. When stress moves into anger then even more of your cognitive abilities are compromised. Releasing the anger and tension restores your ability to deal with the situation. In other words you are surrendering to the moment to respond to the issue.
In some sense surrender means giving up your need to be right to accept the truth in the current circumstance. More internal peace provides more positive energy to change plans, think more clearly, make better decisions and improves conflict outcome results.
Think about ways surrendering could help you lead a more satisfying life and see how you can advance confidently along your chosen path.