“Now is the only time you have. Change is happening. Give up your desire to control the world”
― Kelly Martin
How many times have you tried to take control of your life or someone else’s life and it just didn’t work? Perhaps you took control of a project that you were working on and things didn’t turn out the way you expected. In order for you to get the things you want you had to be in control and that worked until it didn’t.
The more you try to control things the less you really do. Control is like pushing against a brick wall with the hope that it will soon give way to your urging. The wall doesn’t move and you use up a lot of energy in the process.
The path to increased control is through surrendering. Eliminating the need to control all aspects of your life will permit you achieve more in less time. If you’re stuck in traffic and no one is going anywhere getting upset and desiring control won’t get you moving. Surrendering your emotions to the moment allows you to have some peace even at zero miles per hour.
If control creates stress and it usually does when things aren’t going the way you want then as the stress increases your ability to think clearly and rationally decreases. When stress moves into anger then even more of your cognitive abilities are compromised. Releasing the anger and tension restores your ability to deal with the situation. In other words you are surrendering to the moment to respond to the issue.
In some sense surrender means giving up your need to be right to accept the truth in the current circumstance. More internal peace provides more positive energy to change plans, think more clearly, make better decisions and improves conflict outcome results.
Think about ways surrendering could help you lead a more satisfying life and see how you can advance confidently along your chosen path.
“The really happy people are those who have broken the chains of procrastination, those who find satisfaction in doing the job at hand. They’re full of eagerness, zest, productivity. You can be, too.”
Norman Vincent Peale
A new study just released shows that organizations have a tool to determine if employees are fully engaged in work and life. The results of this study show that if organizations want to keep employees that they need to determine how restless the employees are.
If the research from Right Management somewhere near 84% of employees desire to find something different to do, a new job, a new career. Burnout it seems is high when there are financial stresses, increased demands, fewer people to do the work, and a less appreciative staff. Everyone is feeling the pinch in an economy that is slow to recover.
People who feel stuck in a job can carefully look at other opportunities and waiting for the right door to open. Key players who feel they are putting in their all and getting little in return could bolt at the first opportunity. The biggest factor in how an employee perceives their value is their manager or supervisor. That relationship is critical and far too often that relationship isn’t what it should be.
Energy Leadership looks at energy as being either catabolic or anabolic. Catabolic energy is defined as energy that negative in nature, it is the draining type of energy often found in people who are victims or are angry most of the time. Shifting the energy towards an anabolic state would show an organization that employees are engaged and satisfied with their work.
Organizations can now through the use of the Energy Leadership Index determine how engaged their employees are. They can find out just how engaged the management is as well. It is far better to learn how well the organization is doing rather than waiting for a mass exodus and then asking the question, “Why did so many people leave?”.
What are your thoughts? What are you looking for?
Posted in Acknowledgement, appreciation, Balance, Careers, Encouragement, Energy leadership, gratitude, happiness, Work/Life
Tagged career change, coaching, demotivated workforce, employee dissatisfaction, Employee Engagement, energy leadership, Engaged workforce, iPEC, mass exodus
Have you ever wondered how many people are not living their life to their full potential? What would happen if people did live to their full potential?
Have you ever driven to work and not realized how you got there? Imagine that happening to your life as well. How many people do you know that are just taking life for a drive without any destination or goal in mind? What happens if we go through life without a destination?
“The road to happiness lies in two simple principles: find what it is that interests you and that you can do well, and when you find it, put your whole soul into it-every bit of energy and ambition and natural ability you have.”
John D. Rockefeller III
“When you say a situation or a person is hopeless, you are slamming the door in the face of God.”
Charles L. Allen
In light of the situation in Haiti, there are probably many who fear that the situation is hopeless. Hope will arise, the ashes will fall, and something new will become.
Take time and support the crisis in Haiti, the poorest nation in the Western hemisphere.
“And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.” Abraham Lincoln
Have you ever thought that you are just doing life? Are you just going through the motions of life? Does each day pass by with a little less of yourself in it? Are you tired of just going through the motions?
What would it feel like to live a life that is vivid, exciting and in your hands? What would it feel like to approach each day with a new sense of aliveness?
What makes each day memorable?
Take a moment to reflect on what is good in your life. Take a moment to create good in your life. Take a moment to smile, to laugh and to love.
Henry James wrote, “Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living, and your belief will help create the fact.”
What is your happiness index?
What makes you smile on the inside? What tells you that you have had a great day?
On a scale of 1 – 10 (where 1 is low and 10 is high) , how happy are you?
What would it take to make you a 10?
One of the definitions of happiness says that life isn’t what you get but what you give. What have you given lately? Was it to charity? Was it to someone close to you? Was it someone you don’t even know?
What have you done for someone else lately?
The way to activate the seeds of your creation is by making choices about the results you want to create. When you make a choice, you activate vast human energies and resources, which otherwise go untapped.
Stuck? Where do you go? What is the conversation you are having with yourself right now? Is it positive? Is it uplifting? Is it providing you courage to take the next step?
How do you see yourself?
Do you look in the mirror and see the person you really are or something else?
Are you genuine?
Are you authentic?
Do you want to be true to yourself?
What would it take?
What new skills would you need?
What new values would you need?
What hard question are you willing to ask yourself?
Where do you want to be in three years, five years or ten years?
What are you waiting for?
Activate your life today.