Category Archives: being happy

create a magical moment

“I do believe in an everyday sort of magic — the inexplicable connectedness we sometimes experience with places, people, works of art and the like; the eerie appropriateness of moments of synchronicity; the whispered voice, the hidden presence, when we think we’re alone.”
― Charles de Lint

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It only takes a moment to transform a boring, dreary day into something magical.   It only takes  a moment to put a smile on someone else’s face or to create a space for laughter to fill.   Create a magical moment each day and see how it transforms your work, relationships and your life.

The idea is simple, put some fun in the space you occupy.   Something simple, something amazing, something that is different and unexpected that can move the ordinary to extraordinary.

Too much pressure at work, too much seriousness, or too much work then make something happen that shifts the energy towards the positive.  Create a magical moment that will be remembered, that illuminates the darkness with a spark of energy.

How do you create a magical moment?

1. Drop a flower on the desk of a co-worker who is feeling challenged or depressed.

2. Write a note of appreciation.

3. Ask someone to smile and take a picture.

4. Buy a random person lunch.

5. Get people to stand up and move in a meeting – disrupt the status quo.

There are hundreds of ways to make the day magical.  Find one and try  it.  Inspire and motivate others to experience good cheer.  Give them a reason to smile or laugh.  You’ll feel better for it as well.

surviving or thriving in the workplace

… it is possible to heal. It is even possible to thrive. Thriving means more than just an alleviation of symptoms, more than Band-Aids, more than functioning adequately. Thriving means enjoying a feeling of wholeness, satisfaction in your life and work, genuine love and trust in your relationships, pleasure in your body.”
― Ellen Bass

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Are you thriving at work or are you one of the people who finds Monday filled with anxiety?   It seems that many people are finding that work is becoming more stress filled and more anxiety ridden.  Expectations are increasing, more tasks are being added to the daily work expectations and workers are on edge with those new burdens.    What does an employee do?   Continue to absorb the requests of management or find ways to create boundaries that enable success in the workplace?

If you are surviving in the workplace what would you want to see changed?

  • What would it take for that change to take place?
  • What kind of request do you need to make?
  • What would happen if you did make a request for change?   How do you know?

If you are thriving in the work environment what makes it work for you?

  • What enables you to thrive?
  • What do you get to do that you love doing?
  • What keeps the stress manageable?

If you’re not thriving in the workplace what could be done to increase your satisfaction?

  • Do you have a mentor to consult?
  • Do you have a trusted adviser who could help with some ideas?
  • Do you work with a coach?

If work is a daily grind find some support so you can start changing how work is impacting your life.   Take time for breaks to breathe and decompress.  Find time to meditate for a few minutes.  Move, get up and walk to reduce the tension  you experience.

Find a way to thrive in your life.  It will be better for you emotionally, spiritually and physically.  It’s your life, make it your best one.

living in the neutral zone

“There are no conditions to which a man may not become accustomed, particularly if he sees that they are accepted by those about him.”
― Leo Tolstoy

Have you spent any time examining where you are in your life?  What is your life like?  Is it exciting, rewarding and joy filled?   What is your life filled with?  Have you just stopped for a moment to ask yourself “What is my life like?”

If you are just making ends meet and finding your day consumed with time-consuming activities that are not rewarding then you may be living in the neutral zone.  You have the things that society says you should have.  Those things require a drip feed  of your monthly income.   The phone, TV, house, food, insurance, car, and a myriad of other expenses raid your bank account each month.  You do what you can do but at the end of the day it feels neutral.  It’s not bad and it’s not good, it just is what life is.   It’s not what you thought it would be like and at the same time it is what everyone else does, so it must be right.

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Are you stuck in the neutral zone?

Some people are, many people are and life continues. Life becomes a treadmill to achieve which turns out to be a treadmill of advancing materialism and things. At some point people wonder if the walk on the treadmill of life has much meaning.

If you’re just getting by and are being consumed with the demands of life you might be in the neutral zone.   It could be better.

 

in the pursuit of meaning

“What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make.”
― Jane Goodall

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Pursuit of meaning is like …

What makes you life a life you want to live?   What are you doing, seeing, feeling, touching and tasting that is making your life exciting, interesting, and valuable?  When those questions are asked many people don’t have a good answer to the question.

What makes you life a life you want to live?   What are you doing, seeing, feeling, touching and tasting that is making your life exciting, interesting, and valuable?  When those questions are asked many people don’t have a good answer to the question.

Too often people retreat from life making a variety of claims that suggest that they are victims of their work, the relationships, their health, their finances and the world, that life is against them and the opportunity to live fully, expressively and with a sense of aliveness that is exciting is not available to them.

At the beginning of your day and at the end of the day how much positive energy do you have?   Are you excited about what the new day will bring and are you feeling like you made a difference at the end of the day?   Are you feeling strong, vibrant and alive or are you feeling down, depressed and hopeless?  You might even be somewhere in between the extremes of full participation and being fully checked out.

What would it feel like to know that what you did today matters and to believe that what you do will matter?  What you do does matter.   The biggest change you can make is a decision that says every day I’ll do my best to be authentic and passionate about all that I do.  Now, it doesn’t mean that bad days will just go extinct, it means that you’ll acknowledge the bad days and step back and reflect on what the issues are and do something about them.   Complaining to others, or just feeling down doesn’t solve the problem or problems you are dealing with.  Sure, it might feel good to complain once in a while but if complaining is chronic then you have a choice to make.   Do you drag down others around you or do you lift them up?   Be the later.

Where does this all lead?   It leads to living a life of meaning and chasing the most important things that really matter to you.  If you decide to pursue meaning in all that you do you’ll find that life becomes much more robust, it becomes more joyful, it means you feel more alive and it means that you are living life with purpose and on purpose.   What would that feel like?