Category Archives: choice

choosing ends the debate

We make our decisions, and then our decisions turn around and make us.”
― F.W. Boreham

 

 

To make a decision or not.   For some people there are just too many options and each one of those options has something positive that they want in their life and as a result they choose none of the options.  The end result is anxiety, or discontent, unease or unhappiness.   Why not make a decision and move forward.

Choosing and making a decision means that internal debate that is leading you to nowhere ends.  Choosing isn’t about right or wrong, it is about trying something and learning.  Not choosing is a choice that ends up creating more frustration and anxiety.

What do you need to make a decision about?

What is stopping you from making a choice?

What would happen if you make a choice?

It doesn’t matter what it is you’ve probably had an internal debate that has gone on far too long.  Make a choice and stop thinking about making a choice.

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knowing your blind spots

“As a leader, 1st, work on yourself- increase your self-awareness. There shouldn’t be any other urgent agenda than this. Get enlightened! Know very well who you’re including your strengths, weaknesses, and blind spots!”
― Assegid Habtewold

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Everyone has blind spots in their lives, an area that they are unaware of and how it can impact other people.  Some people exploit blind spots to gain control or have an advantage of another person.    Finding out what the blind spots are, being aware gives you a chance to live a better life.

In business executives work with coaches to help them reveal their blind spots, poor communications, anger management, overwhelm, time management, focus and more, can derail a career.   Knowing what those blind spots are opportunities for getting better results.

Not everyone wants to know what their blind spots are and yet knowing them, being aware of what might cause problems, is valuable.   Being blind to what others see can impact relationships, careers and friendships.

What can you do to increase personal awareness?

Ask others to share what they see when you are emotionally stressed.   Ask them to share what your strengths and weaknesses are.   Those are starting points to revealing the blind spots.

Organizations can have blind spots as well.   People come into the organization and adopt the practices and procedures of an organization and over time lose the opportunity to understand why things are done in a certain way.

What are your blind spots?  How are they affecting you?

10 rules to improve performance

Don’t mistake activity with achievement.”
― John Wooden

What rules do you work by or live by?   Are the rules supporting your growth and success or are they pushing you backwards?

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Many people are living by rules they aren’t even aware of.  Rules of living that lead to procrastination, poor time management, small expectations, negative self-talk and worse.   What you do each day is dictated by the rules that govern your life.   If you exercise you have a rule for exercising.   If you are overweight you have rules that permit you to eat more than you need.   If you are unhappy you have rules that allow you to stay unhappy.

The rules you live by support the results you get each day.  If you don’t like the rules you are living by then it is time to change them.  Live by a new set of rules.

Robin Sharma shares some rules(in bold) that can improve your daily results.  Here they are:

#1. Generosity beats scarcity in every situation.

– Implement the rule by living by this statement.  “I am generous”

#2. If you’re the most successful person in every room, find a new room.

– Implement a new rule here, “I am growing”

#3. If you’re not up early, you’re sleeping too late.

-Change your rule to, “I get up early.”

#4. Epic performance has more to do with saying no than saying yes.

-Manage your time better by, “I carefully choose what I do.”

#5. Commit to becoming the undisputed heavyweight champion of your craft.

-Improve your performance by:  “I am an expert”

#6. Get fit so you can serve more people.

-Master your health with the rule, “I am healthy”

#7. Impact is a better measure of success than income.

-Create a rule to live more significantly, “I am making a significant contribution.”

#8. A failure only becomes a failure if you let it become a failure.

-Switch your thinking, “I am successful”

#9. Your job is to see the greatness in people who have yet to own the greatness within themselves.

-Help others to succeed, “I am help others be their best”,  take the “ego” out.

#10. Don’t wait to be inspired to start your dream. Start your dream to grow inspired.

– Set goals and work on them, “I work on my goals daily.”

#11. What the victim calls luck, the hero calls relentlessness.

-And, “I create my results.”

What rules do you live by?   What rules do you want to change?   What results do you want this year?

a return to self

“We mustn’t let our dreams die in the daylight because we lose focus while responding to the world’s lame interests or false emergencies.”  — Brendon Burchard

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Have you noticed how much time you spend attending to the demands of others while letting go of the string that your dreams are attached to.   You may be doing work that is not your best work, or you may be working for someone who is a tyrant or you may be abused by words or actions of others and you retreat from being truly who you are.

A return to self isn’t about being selfish it is about being authentic and living the life you were designed to live.   Your gifts, talents and strengths were meant to be used and not hidden from the world and too often it is the case that your best talents are not put to their best use.

Too many people have had their dreams crushed by others who were in full pursuit of their own interests.  You might be one of those people who have worked for a bully or someone who didn’t want to help you be your best.  You may be doing work because it was what someone else wanted for you and you wanted to please them.  You may have given up your dreams so that someone else could achieve theirs.   What happened when you did that?   What did you lose?

What are your strengths?

What are your dreams?

What are you giving up to live the life you are now living?

What would it take for you to start using your strengths and to start moving towards your dreams?   A return to self would allow you to be your best self and to allow you to make your best contribution.   What do you think?

no opportunity wasted

“But why do only unimportant things?” asked Milo, who suddenly remembered how much time he spent each day doing them.

“Think of all the trouble it saves,” the man explained, and his face looked as if he’d be grinning an evil grin–if he could grin at all. “If you only do the easy and useless jobs, you’ll never have to worry about the important ones which are so difficult. You just won’t have the time. For there’s always something to do to keep you from what you really should be doing, and if it weren’t for that dreadful magic staff, you’d never know how much time you were wasting.”
― Norton Juster

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You have this moment in time to make a difference.   An opportunity is here.  What are you going to do with it?

Many people look at the opportunity and wonder is it real.   Others would look at the opportunity and say it is for someone else.   Others would just wait until the opportunity no longer existed.

Now is the time to take advantage of opportunity.   What opportunities do you have today that you will take advantage of?

New rules, new behavior

“I have a subconscious list of rules for how reality should work. I did not develop these rules on purpose, and most of them don’t make sense – which is disturbing when you consider that they are an attempt to govern the behavior of reality – but they exist, and they play a large role in determining how I react to the things that happen to me. Large enough that a majority of the feelings I feel are simply a reaction to reality not complying with my arbitrary set of rules. ”
― Allie Brosh

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Think about the rules you have in your life.  You have rules for everything.  Your life is about rules, like stopping at a train crossing or stopping at a stop sign.

If you are thinking I don’t live by rules then just look at your habits.  You do have habits, things you do, things you say,  the way you approach a problem or the way you tackle each day.  You do have habits and some work for you and some don’t.

Habits are rules that we use to reduce the amount of thinking we have to do.  Habits are programs that run in the background of your consciousness and some work well and some don’t.  If you find yourself doing things that don’t produce great results for you then you might want to change some of the rules you operate by.

Sometimes the issue is trying to find the rules that you want to change so that you can change them.  Some habits/rules are so embedded in our daily life that we aren’t even aware of them.   Becoming aware of those “hidden” rules is the first step to creating positive change.    What rules are running your life the way you don’t want them to?   What would you like to change?

create your luck

“The monster I kill every day is the monster of realism. The monster who attacks me every day is destruction. Out of the duel comes the transformation. I turn destruction into creation over and over again.” 
― Anaïs Nin

There are a lot of people hoping they can win a million dollars so they can start living the life they want to live.  Hope is held in the form of a lottery ticket.   Most of the time that ticket won’t bring the promise of a better tomorrow.  The ticket doesn’t offer a hope for the future.  It might be the easiest thing to do, to spend a couple of dollars in printed ink on a ticket,  and hope that the numbers will be the lucky ones.

There is a better way to create the future you want and that is to create a plan to build that future yourself.

What do you want your life’s work to mean?   What kind of work do you want to do?

What do you want your life outside of work to mean, to look like and to feel like?

What do you want your internal life, your spiritual life to be like?

What do you want to contribute to the world around you?  What difference do you want to make in your community?

Luck happens when you create opportunities for good things to happen.   Life isn’t like a lottery ticket where if you are lucky success surrounds you.  It takes effort and consistent action towards a powerful vision for your life.

What are you doing to create your luck?