Category Archives: choice

create your luck

“The monster I kill every day is the monster of realism. The monster who attacks me every day is destruction. Out of the duel comes the transformation. I turn destruction into creation over and over again.” 
― Anaïs Nin

There are a lot of people hoping they can win a million dollars so they can start living the life they want to live.  Hope is held in the form of a lottery ticket.   Most of the time that ticket won’t bring the promise of a better tomorrow.  The ticket doesn’t offer a hope for the future.  It might be the easiest thing to do, to spend a couple of dollars in printed ink on a ticket,  and hope that the numbers will be the lucky ones.

There is a better way to create the future you want and that is to create a plan to build that future yourself.

What do you want your life’s work to mean?   What kind of work do you want to do?

What do you want your life outside of work to mean, to look like and to feel like?

What do you want your internal life, your spiritual life to be like?

What do you want to contribute to the world around you?  What difference do you want to make in your community?

Luck happens when you create opportunities for good things to happen.   Life isn’t like a lottery ticket where if you are lucky success surrounds you.  It takes effort and consistent action towards a powerful vision for your life.

What are you doing to create your luck?

life as a car wreck

“All of us are in the manufacturing industry – manufacturing either our own happiness or unhappiness.”
― Ogwo David Emenike

SDRandCo (23)
Does your life feel like it is spinning out of control?   Does it seem more like a demolition derby than the life you were hoping to live?    Does it feel like others are charging into you to stop all movement in your life?

For many people life is out of control.   Time is going by to swiftly.   The sound of disappointment only screams louder.   The cries,”When will things get better?”, echo in your mind.    Other people tug at your for attention.  Friends and family aren’t doing things that please you and you just want them to stop ruining your life.

file6651263046960

The carousel spins out of control and all you can do is hold on tighter and think this isn’t how life should be.   When things appear to be out of control or before they get that far, stop and ask yourself “What is it that you really want?”   Take some time to evaluate what it is that you really want.   Many people are getting off the carousel and designing a lifestyle that works for them.  That may mean giving up some of the material items in their life and living in a simpler way.  High paying jobs often come with a lot of stress.   Living from paycheck to paycheck often creates a lot of stress.  In the end it boils down to the choices that are being made.   What choices are you making and are they leading you to the life you want to live?

go beyond your comfort zone …

“Be fearless. Have the courage to take risks. Go where there are no guarantees. Get out of your comfort zone even if it means being uncomfortable. The road less traveled is sometimes fraught with barricades bumps and uncharted terrain. But it is on that road where your character is truly tested And have the courage to accept that you’re not perfect nothing is and no one is — and that’s OK.”
― Katie Couric

Are you ready to break the chains of complacency?   Are you ready to start a new year in a new way to get new results that will lift your life higher than it has been in the past?   Are you ready to make this new year a better year for you?

Get ready to think about ways to change your life.  Take a look at this video.

Make this the day you start your life over with a focus on what you want.

a hero’s journey

“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” Joseph Campbell

Heros Journey

SONY DSC

Epic in nature, it is your journey through change and life.  It’s your story and it is about your outer world, the one you see, and your inner world which remains hidden.

As we figure out what we want we have to make choices that involve what we can do and who we are.  The hero’s journey is about discovering who you are to do what you want.

The journey involves facing some of your deepest fears and when you are able to face those fears and battle with making a change then you are able to grow.   Tackling your fears is where having someone with you to identify what is holding you back is beneficial.

 

Where are you in your journey?   Are you struggling and not sure why?  Are you stuck or trapped and need a helping hand?   Are you growing or are you staying put?

“Nobody ever talks about the pyramids that weren’t built, the books that weren’t written, the songs that weren’t sung. Stop letting your fear condemn you to mediocrity. Get out of your own way. Your dreams are a poetic reflection of your soul’s wishes. Be courageous enough to follow them. There is no greater time than now to experience the full power of your potential. Make this the day you take the first step in the beautiful journey of bringing your dreams to life.”
― Steve Maraboli

the rules of the cave

“Grug: Tonight we’ll hear the story of Crispy Bear. A long time ago this little bear was alive because she listened to her father. So she was happy, but Crispy had one terrible problem.
Grug: She was filled with curiosity. Yes, and one day she saw something new and died!
Thunk: Just like that?
Grug: Yes!
Gran: Same ending as everyday
Thunk: I get it, dad. I will never do anything new or different.
Grug: Good man, Thunk”

From the movie, “The Croods”

“The Croods” turns out to be a movie about change and adventure.   The movie starts out with a caveman family that hides in a cave when anything dangerous happens and relies on the rules of the past to play in a changing world.

If we look at the movie as a reflection on life you can see where many people live with a set of rules designed for the past and they just don’t work for the world today.   It doesn’t mean abandon the past, it does mean exploring, and investigating the current reality.

“The Croods” is an animated story about leadership and how it works and what happens when it fails.  Do we act on ideas or do we hide from them?   Do we take chances and learn and grow or do we hide in our cave?  The movie is about growth and learning.  It is a metaphor for life as it is today, challenging, sometimes difficult and fraught with change.

Is your life filled with “I’ll follow the rules” or are you doing something new each day?  Growth and change are necessary.

ask for the unreasonable

“Most men either compromise or drop their greatest talents and start running after, what they perceive to be, a more reasonable success, and somewhere in between they end up with a discontented settlement. Safety is indeed stability, but it is not progression.” 
― Criss Jami

SONY DSC

 Consider what would  happen if you did something that was outside your comfort zone.   What would you ask for?   What would you want?

What stops many people is the fear of someone saying “No” to a request.  Just the thought that someone might say “no” stops the question from being asked.   The only place that the request was unreasonable was in the mind of a reasonable person.    We won’t get what we don’t ask for.

Think about something you want to accomplish, have or be.   What question would you ask and who would you ask that question to?    What would happen if you got the answer you wanted?   What would you really do?

Progress is made by making unreasonable requests.   What request do you want to make?   What will it take for you to make it?

nothing works until you do

“For what it’s worth: it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again.”
― Eric Roth

MINOLTA DIGITAL CAMERA

People lament the fact that organizations don’t change in the right way.  Personal growth, professional growth, individual habits, weight loss, a better outlook on life, career, or relationships don’t change until you decide you want them to change.   All to often we wait for something else to change in the world to make us feel better.  It is really the other way around.  We have to change to feel better in the world.

There is nothing that will satisfy you or fill you up with happiness or joy unless you are open to letting new things into your life.   It means you may need to make changes in your life in order to experience life the way you would like to experience it.   Want a better career than you have to be the person that is capable of having that better career.

If you are wondering what will make you happy then find out how to make other people happy.  You grow into happiness, happiness doesn’t appear and happen to you, you have to be open to happiness.

It all starts with a change of mindset, a new state of mind.  The question is what will it take for you to make the changes to get more out of your life.   It starts with a goal, your goal, for something better in your life.

Making your life better doesn’t start with something else change it starts with your change, your desire to make a change.   It all starts when you decide that you want to make a change.   There is no treatment, no magic bullet, no amount of “others” asking you to make a change that will cause a change to happen “in” you.   It is a step that you have to make.  It is that first act of courage that says, “I want to make my life better.”    What will it take for you to take a step forward in your life today?