Category Archives: giving

what’s missing?

“If you think something is missing in your life, it is probably YOU…”
― Robert Holden


Have you ever had that feeling that something is missing in your life?  Have you taken the time to find it?

For some people life is a struggle.  It’s not that it has to be a struggle it is just the way they believe things are.   I’ve heard, “I just can’t do this kind of work.”, and they lament the very fact that the work is challenging instead of looking at how they could make those challenges smaller.  They could learn more or dig into the material that they don’t understand and find ways to learn the material.   In other words they could chose to attack work rather than letting work attack them.

“I don’t have enough time to do all the things I want to do.” and I’ll guess that you’ve uttered those words when the amount of things in life just seem overwhelming.   The list of things to do just keeps growing and it is starting to crowd out what you really want to do.   I’ll ask those people, “what do you really want to be doing? or what is most important to be  done now.”   After a few minutes a list of important things becomes visible and the unimportant things also become visible.  From there it is a choice – “what do you want to do with what you have on the list?”   Prioritization and making sure that the list of things to do are the things that matter most.   Figure that out and there is time for you.

Are you struggling?   Not just having a difficult time but really struggling to be your best self.  What are you doing about it?  What is missing in your life?

For some people it is motivation and they aren’t finding the energy to do something.   When you’re not motivated what do you do about it?   What keeps you in the game?

Do you have problems just getting started on something?   Is it easier to wait, for another few minutes, hours and then days?  Pretty soon that project, that idea, or inspiration just falls into the heap of the undone and unnoticed.

Where are you?   Do you have all the things in life that you want to have?   What’s missing?



getting giving right

“The belief that unhappiness is selfless and happiness is selfish is misguided. It’s more selfless to act happy. It takes energy, generosity, and discipline to be unfailingly lighthearted, yet everyone takes the happy person for granted. No one is careful of his feelings or tries to keep his spirits high. He seems self-sufficient; he becomes a cushion for others. And because happiness seems unforced, that person usually gets no credit.”
― Gretchen Rubin


Where do you put your attention when you give?   Are you giving out of desire our out of obligation?  How does it feel if  you feel you have to give?

This is the season that we pause to think about our giving choices and perhaps give to those who are less fortunate than we are.  Miracles can happen when giving is done because there is just a desire to give.  Giving to someone, or some organization that brings hope to others is really worthwhile.

Giving is good for our bodies and giving is good for our nervous system.  Giving promotes a sense of wellbeing.

When giving think about the experience you want to create.   What story do you want to create with your gift or what story do you want to create because of your gift?  What emotions do you want to experience?

When giving think about the person or organization you are giving to, what do they really need?   Find out what would work best and meet those needs.  Your gift will be more rewarding when you meet their needs.

Make the giving fun, make it into an event, make it magical.  What would create a warm and wonderful experience as a result of your giving?   A smile goes a long way.  Give because you want to.