Category Archives: live a good life

living in the neutral zone

“There are no conditions to which a man may not become accustomed, particularly if he sees that they are accepted by those about him.”
― Leo Tolstoy

Have you spent any time examining where you are in your life?  What is your life like?  Is it exciting, rewarding and joy filled?   What is your life filled with?  Have you just stopped for a moment to ask yourself “What is my life like?”

If you are just making ends meet and finding your day consumed with time-consuming activities that are not rewarding then you may be living in the neutral zone.  You have the things that society says you should have.  Those things require a drip feed  of your monthly income.   The phone, TV, house, food, insurance, car, and a myriad of other expenses raid your bank account each month.  You do what you can do but at the end of the day it feels neutral.  It’s not bad and it’s not good, it just is what life is.   It’s not what you thought it would be like and at the same time it is what everyone else does, so it must be right.

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Are you stuck in the neutral zone?

Some people are, many people are and life continues. Life becomes a treadmill to achieve which turns out to be a treadmill of advancing materialism and things. At some point people wonder if the walk on the treadmill of life has much meaning.

If you’re just getting by and are being consumed with the demands of life you might be in the neutral zone.   It could be better.

 

wrapping up the year

“The only way that we can live, is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself.”
― C. JoyBell C.

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Relax, reflect and look ahead

It’s close to the end of the year.  It’s time to wrap up projects, personal projects as  well as those professional projects.  How many of your goals did you achieve?

This is the time to get things done and prepare for a new set of objectives for 2016.   What did  you do this year?  What was remarkable about what you did?  Did you even notice how you were doing over the past year or did it just fly by in a blur?  What was the best part and what was the worst part?

It might have been an ugly year for you or it might have been the most spectacular year of your life, what did you learn?   What do you want to do to make 2016 better?

What do you want to accomplish before the year ends?

For many people the last two weeks in the year is a time to recover and just relax.  It is time to think about what is coming next and a time to start dreaming again.  For some people this year was a hard year, challenging them in so many ways.  Was your year challenging?  Was it something you wanted to forget?  If it was challenging then now is the time to just reflect and relax.  It is time to reset expectations and a time to forge a new dream.  What will you do?

What do you want next year to bring?   Are you ready to begin?

 

in the pursuit of meaning

“What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make.”
― Jane Goodall

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Pursuit of meaning is like …

What makes you life a life you want to live?   What are you doing, seeing, feeling, touching and tasting that is making your life exciting, interesting, and valuable?  When those questions are asked many people don’t have a good answer to the question.

What makes you life a life you want to live?   What are you doing, seeing, feeling, touching and tasting that is making your life exciting, interesting, and valuable?  When those questions are asked many people don’t have a good answer to the question.

Too often people retreat from life making a variety of claims that suggest that they are victims of their work, the relationships, their health, their finances and the world, that life is against them and the opportunity to live fully, expressively and with a sense of aliveness that is exciting is not available to them.

At the beginning of your day and at the end of the day how much positive energy do you have?   Are you excited about what the new day will bring and are you feeling like you made a difference at the end of the day?   Are you feeling strong, vibrant and alive or are you feeling down, depressed and hopeless?  You might even be somewhere in between the extremes of full participation and being fully checked out.

What would it feel like to know that what you did today matters and to believe that what you do will matter?  What you do does matter.   The biggest change you can make is a decision that says every day I’ll do my best to be authentic and passionate about all that I do.  Now, it doesn’t mean that bad days will just go extinct, it means that you’ll acknowledge the bad days and step back and reflect on what the issues are and do something about them.   Complaining to others, or just feeling down doesn’t solve the problem or problems you are dealing with.  Sure, it might feel good to complain once in a while but if complaining is chronic then you have a choice to make.   Do you drag down others around you or do you lift them up?   Be the later.

Where does this all lead?   It leads to living a life of meaning and chasing the most important things that really matter to you.  If you decide to pursue meaning in all that you do you’ll find that life becomes much more robust, it becomes more joyful, it means you feel more alive and it means that you are living life with purpose and on purpose.   What would that feel like?