“The belief that unhappiness is selfless and happiness is selfish is misguided. It’s more selfless to act happy. It takes energy, generosity, and discipline to be unfailingly lighthearted, yet everyone takes the happy person for granted. No one is careful of his feelings or tries to keep his spirits high. He seems self-sufficient; he becomes a cushion for others. And because happiness seems unforced, that person usually gets no credit.”
― Gretchen Rubin
Where do you put your attention when you give? Are you giving out of desire our out of obligation? How does it feel if you feel you have to give?
This is the season that we pause to think about our giving choices and perhaps give to those who are less fortunate than we are. Miracles can happen when giving is done because there is just a desire to give. Giving to someone, or some organization that brings hope to others is really worthwhile.
Giving is good for our bodies and giving is good for our nervous system. Giving promotes a sense of wellbeing.
When giving think about the experience you want to create. What story do you want to create with your gift or what story do you want to create because of your gift? What emotions do you want to experience?
When giving think about the person or organization you are giving to, what do they really need? Find out what would work best and meet those needs. Your gift will be more rewarding when you meet their needs.
Make the giving fun, make it into an event, make it magical. What would create a warm and wonderful experience as a result of your giving? A smile goes a long way. Give because you want to.