Category Archives: purposeful living

stunning moment

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“Rarely do we realize that if we simply take time to marvel at life’s gifts and give thanks for them, we activate stunning opportunities to increase their influence in our lives.”         Angeles Arrien

 

What have you seen lately that has been stunning?

  • A stunning sunrise
  • A stunning sunset
  • A place of stunning beauty
  • A stunning piece of work
  • A stunning day

When did you have your last stunning moment?

What would it take to experience a stunning event?

Create one.  Create something stunning today.   Make something happen that will be powerful for you or someone else.  You can do it.

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know it … do it …

“I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Being willing is not enough; we must do.”
― Leonardo da Vinci

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Here’s the gap, you know what to do to live a better life and you decide that doing is too hard.  Is it really?

You’ve heard the excuses and maybe you’ve made those same excuses yourself.

  • I don’t have enough time.
  • There is too much to do.
  • I have to …
  • I can’t …
  • There is something more important right now.
  • Tomorrow, I’ll do it tomorrow

I hear those excuses a lot.   How do you make progress if you know what you want and still find excuses not to?

First, get really serious about what is important to you.  Is spending another 30 minutes on Facebook really going to help you make improvements in your life?  Is watching another TV show going to help you?

Some people are hoping something magical will occur that will allow them to do what they say they want without doing any work to realize that goal.  If there are old habits that are just creating misery in your life then wouldn’t it be nice to take the time to change those old habits and create some new ones?  Most people would say, yes I want new habits.  Now, doing the work is the hard part and for some it just doesn’t get done.

If it is really important then it is really important to make the changes in your life so that you can focus on getting the results you want.  It’s time to put the excuses away and put the energy into making positive change.

It’s “I know what I want to do … I just don’t do it” that stops people from getting the results they think or believe they want.  It takes work to change a habit.

What’s your excuse?

 

expectations or agreements

“Treat a man as he is and he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he can and should be and
he will become as he can and should be.”
― Stephen R. Covey

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Have you ever been told you didn’t meet expectations?   What did that feel like?   Were you even aware of those expectations?   Expectations are somewhat like a barb wired fence, as careful as you can be sometimes you’ll get caught on the sharpened barb.

People place expectations on others without explaining or providing the content for those expectations.   That leaves you to guess what others think you should do and that often leads to conflict, or in the workplace, demotivation.

Why do expectations lead to conflict?   Expectations are those things that if you are able to meet are rarely acknowledged.  Expectations that are missed are usually commented on and often in a negative fashion.  In the best case you often hear nothing positive and in the worst case you end up feeling upset, angry or frustrated.

A better approach would be to create agreements.   Agreements are co-created and include a commitment and a target for achieving the outcome.  Agreements can be managed where expectations are just that, an expectation that something will get done.  When an agreement isn’t met then the parties to the agreement can talk about what didn’t or did work out.

In what parts of your life are expectations causing problems?   How could an agreement be created that would replace those expectations?

 

in the pursuit of meaning

“What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make.”
― Jane Goodall

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Pursuit of meaning is like …

What makes you life a life you want to live?   What are you doing, seeing, feeling, touching and tasting that is making your life exciting, interesting, and valuable?  When those questions are asked many people don’t have a good answer to the question.

What makes you life a life you want to live?   What are you doing, seeing, feeling, touching and tasting that is making your life exciting, interesting, and valuable?  When those questions are asked many people don’t have a good answer to the question.

Too often people retreat from life making a variety of claims that suggest that they are victims of their work, the relationships, their health, their finances and the world, that life is against them and the opportunity to live fully, expressively and with a sense of aliveness that is exciting is not available to them.

At the beginning of your day and at the end of the day how much positive energy do you have?   Are you excited about what the new day will bring and are you feeling like you made a difference at the end of the day?   Are you feeling strong, vibrant and alive or are you feeling down, depressed and hopeless?  You might even be somewhere in between the extremes of full participation and being fully checked out.

What would it feel like to know that what you did today matters and to believe that what you do will matter?  What you do does matter.   The biggest change you can make is a decision that says every day I’ll do my best to be authentic and passionate about all that I do.  Now, it doesn’t mean that bad days will just go extinct, it means that you’ll acknowledge the bad days and step back and reflect on what the issues are and do something about them.   Complaining to others, or just feeling down doesn’t solve the problem or problems you are dealing with.  Sure, it might feel good to complain once in a while but if complaining is chronic then you have a choice to make.   Do you drag down others around you or do you lift them up?   Be the later.

Where does this all lead?   It leads to living a life of meaning and chasing the most important things that really matter to you.  If you decide to pursue meaning in all that you do you’ll find that life becomes much more robust, it becomes more joyful, it means you feel more alive and it means that you are living life with purpose and on purpose.   What would that feel like?