Category Archives: serving others

add service to your routine

“Everybody can be great…because anybody can serve. You don’t have to have a college degree to serve. You don’t have to make your subject and verb agree to serve. You only need a heart full of grace. A soul generated by love.”
― Martin Luther King Jr

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Serve others better

People often ask how they can improve their chances of getting promoted at work.   The answer is rather simple, serve others better, serve others with excellence.   The service formula is rather simple and it is one that people quickly ignore.   If there was a secret to getting ahead it would be service.  Now, the problem is that it is so easy to do that most people don’t even want to do it.

What job doesn’t involve some sort of service?   Your job likely involves interacting with other people at some level.  How are you serving them?

Serving is about caring and caring is easy to do in principal and much more challenging when your own life is need filled.   Take some time and consider some ways you can increase your service to others in your place of work.  What can you do to show that you care?

In your place of work do you believe you have a purpose?

Do people acknowledge who you are?

Does your work matter to others?

What does service mean to you?   How can you serve better in the workplace?

When you are cared for in your place of work that behavior is shared with others and you begin to care about the work you do and the people you serve.  With employee engagement hovering in the 30% area it would make sense for the organization to care about you so that you could care about your work.  Often the belief is the other way around, we pay you to do your work and because of that you should care about the place you work.  It doesn’t work that way.

What would allow you to serve better?

 

10 rules for better relationships

“How would your life be different if…You decided to give freely, love fully, and play feverously? Let today be the day…You free yourself from the conditioned rules that limit your happiness and dilute the beautiful life experience. Have fun. Give – Love – Play!”
― Steve Maraboli

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A lot of people would like to be happier, to have better relationships with others and wonder why they don’t.   How are your relationships?  How are your relationships with those you work with and share time with?   What is missing in your relationships?

It seems that a lot of people I work with struggle with some of their relationships, many of them are with the managers they work for.   Some people aren’t being challenged enough and are afraid to ask for more.  Others don’t believe their superiors listen to them and feel taken advantage of.   Almost everything we do is based on relationships and we can take a few steps to make them better.

Here are 10  rules for improving relationships.

Rule #1 – Serve the other person.  Make their lives better.

Rule #2 – Practice random acts of kindness.  How can you make the day better for someone else?

Rule #3 – Release your anger.  Give up being angry about things that have happened in the past.  Anger is about fear, so identify what you fear and watch the anger melt away.

Rule #4 – Grow.  Invest in learning and growing.  Becoming a better person will enrich your relationships.

Rule #5 – Listen.  It’s simple, it’s hard to do.   What are people really saying?  Listen to what they say and let them know you heard what they said.

Rule #6 – Appreciate.  Say “Thank-you”.  Some people who you would like to have a better relationship with have never heard you say “Thank-you”.   Show them that you appreciate who they are and what they do.

Rule #7 – Honor Commitments.  Build trust with others by honoring your commitments and if you can’t meet a commitment let the other person know when you will meet your commitment.  Trust is essential in a relationship and honoring commitments builds trust.

Rule #8 – Be honest.   It is easy not to be honest when it is easier to blame someone else or to change the truth so you feel better.  Honesty requires that you take responsibility for your actions and your words.

Rule #9 – Don’t wait.  If something feels wrong or is wrong then don’t wait for it to go away.   Solve the problem right away.

Rule #10 – Love more.  Love has power.  Love is the opposite of fear and those who love more have better relationships.  Love heals.  Love forgives.

Pick a rule and adopt it for yourself and use it daily.   Add a new rule to your life and see what it does for you.  Don’t wait for someone else to change or make the relationship better, go out and make it better yourself.

What rules would you add?

What would help make your relationship with others better?