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creating a more positive image

“It’s not what you say out of your mouth that determines your life,it’s what you whisper to yourself that has the most power!”
― Robert T. Kiyosaki

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What do you believe about yourself?   Do you believe that you are the total sum of what others have said about you?   Did you believe the teachers, parents, relatives, friends or others that said, “You are ___________”?

Most people believe what others say about them and then build their internal story to match what the outside world has told them they should be or what they shouldn’t be.  Teachers may have told you that “you’ll never amount to __________” and left an indelible mark on your story.   You may have believed that “I won’t be able to live my dreams.”   That story became your life.  Others may have influenced you as well and killed your biggest dream.   Think about it for a few minutes.  What did others say you were going to be or do in life?   What story do you still carry around with you?

The story becomes a belief, the mask hides the true self from the authentic self and life becomes less than what it could really be.    There are three key beliefs that impact your personal image.

1. Personal.  The belief that what you hear is true and that is the truth about who you are.   With enough repetition there is a shift in some people to a mode of helplessness.

2. Pervasive.    The idea that all external messages are pointed to you and are negative.   That all negative things are in a sense apply to all things, as in “everything is bad.”

3. Permanent.  It’s not that things are bad, things are going to get worse.   The tide of woe is only going to grow and there is no hope at all.

One way to improve your self-image is to look at the things you do control and the things you don’t control.   Take a piece of paper and draw a line down the center.  On the left write “control” and the right write “don’t control”.   Write down all the things you do control and then write down all the things you don’t control.   You can manage what you do control.   Leave what you can’t control behind.

Listen to Professor Seligman describe the state of psychology here:

make today a positive day …

“Decide that you have the power to say YES to it all.  You saying YES guarantees you will find the limitless source of inner strength that lies within.  There is no greater comfort than that.

When we achieve the state of comfort, we can let go of our need to control not only the little things, but even the big things in our lives.”   Susan Jeffers,  “The little book of Peace of Mind” 

We have a choice to make every day when we open our eyes.   We have a choice to make about our attitude and what we will make of the present moment.   We can say to ourselves this will be my great day a day I choose to make it as good as it can be.   I will enjoy each breath I take.   I will think thoughts that magnify all that I am, that will magnify my strengths, my courage, my intelligence, and my feelings in such a way that my soul will dance with happiness.  

“Happiness is not in our circumstances, but in ourselves. It is not something we see, like a rainbow, or feel, like the heat of a fire. Happiness is something we are.”  John B. Sheerin

There is no shortage of news, events, sounds, or words that can drag us into a place that can make one less than positive.   Where do you get positive  content from?  

Have you created your own happiness project? 

Examples of Happiness projects:

  Dr. Robert Holden’s Happiness ProjectHappiness Toolbox

 Alex’s happiness project

The Happiness Project

Gretchen Rubin‘s Happiness Project

What would your happiness project look like?    

Some people may not know how to start their own happiness project.   Some people think to themselves why am I giving up my happiness for this.   Sometimes that leads a person who desires happiness to seek out a coach to help them find those things that would help them to be happy.

What do you want your story to be?   How can you be positive today

 How do you want your story to play out?

What is your starting point for creating a more positive and happier life for yourself and others?