“Live with intention.
Walk to the edge.
Play with abandon.
Choose with no regret.
Appreciate your friends.
Continue to learn.
Do what you love.
Live as if this is all there is.”
― Mary Anne Radmacher
Is your life working for you? Are you at the weight you desire to be? Are you working at the career you love? Do you have great relationships with others and yourself? Are you learning and growing? Are you finances where you want them to be?
If you answered “no” to any of those questions then what are you doing to create the outcomes you want? Many people would like to change and attempt to start and then stop. Dieters do this all of the time. They get on a diet and lose some weight and think, “wow, that was good and now I can celebrate”. The celebration goes on and on and so do the pounds. The rebound is greater and the weight gain is greater. What sets in after feeling terrible about not losing the weight, eating more. Eating food is the pain-killer for being overweight.
Finances, it just feels right to spend and buy things. It feels good to buy things and then it feel terrible to see the bill come in the mail. The budget is out of whack again and it feel terrible. Why not spend a few dollars for things you don’t really need, it will feel better.
Is your career killing you? Do you dread dragging yourself into work everyday? Oh, you’ll get yelled at again. No one but you appreciates the work you do, and if you’re the only one that cares about the work then why do it. Have your ideas been tossed aside when your manager says to your great idea, “Yes, but …”?
What do you want to change?
This is a good news, bad news scenario. If you want to change it is possible and if you don’t want to change than nothing can be done. A therapist, coach or counselor isn’t going to be able to help you or encourage you to change. Change is something you want to do. If things aren’t working out in your life and you just want things to be different then it might not happen unless you are willing to do some work.
Change is intentional and you have to be intentional about make change happen for you.
Intentional change theory has been explored by Richard Boyatzis of Case Western Reserve University, here is part of the concept.
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“I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot… and I missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that’s precisely why I succeed.” Michael Jordan
Top performers have learned something that many potential top performers haven’t learned yet. They know how to bounce back from disappointment, loss and great challenges.
Resilience is the propensity to bounce back from a fall. As a ball contacts a surface it compresses and that stored energy rebounds and causes the ball to bounce back. When we fail or make a mistake we also need to find a way to bounce back. Resilience is the story of winners not whiners. Winners find a way to come back and finish strong.
Those who have found a way to bounce back. When Jack Canfield got rejected time and time again before getting his “Chicken soup for the soul” published he could have let the first rejection stop but he didn’t he kept pressing ahead not after 1 or 2 or after 50 but closer to 100 rejections before a publisher printed his book.
Fred Smith could have turned thrown his dream into the wastepaper basket after his professor gave him a “C”on his idea for Federal Express. SouthWest Airlines could have folded before it started if it weren’t for the resilience of Herb Kelleher.
Winners find a way to bounce back and achieve their goals. When they do they have success stories that can be told and used in case studies about business success. When Lance Armstrong was diagnosed with cancer he didn’t let the cancer define him, he used it as a stepping stone for greater success. He bounced back.
How are you at bouncing back? Do you feel like a setback is a reason to quit? Do you feel like you aren’t good enough and you’re not the right person to take up the challenge?
People who are resilient take charge of their life rather than letting the circumstance take charge of their life. If you are having a bad day, a bad week, a bad month, or a bad year, step back and assess your situation. Are you taking charge or are you letting the circumstance dictate your next step?
If you’re ready to make a change and become resilient and you don’t know how … contact a coach, work with someone and become a resilient person.
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” Steve Jobs
Many people feel like they are at the end of their rope. Life has dealt them a hard blow and they have fallen from their perch that once was high and lofty. Not long ago a business person thought that the best path to the future was getting out of the business he had been in for over 30 years. The business was no longer satisfying, the hours were long and the work was hard. Finding people to work in the business wasn’t easy either, turn-over was high and the work was hard. His choice to quit, to give it up and turn to something else. Even though the business was working, the heart to keep the business running wasn’t. So, what do you do?
After a long, long time at one occupation, one career, one way of work it takes a lot of energy to change and start doing something else. It takes resilience, the same properties as a rubber ball, to bounce back and find meaning and passion in life again.
Resilience is an important property to have. Resilience is the ability to recover from defeat and come back again. There are many, many stories of people who started a business and did everything they could to keep it going and it still didn’t survive. Sometimes people are able to make a comfortable living doing something and then the whole market changes leaving them with one choice, to close the doors. It takes resilience to come back from small defeats and the even larger defeats.
Most people have experienced some type of event that took the air right out of them. There are people who have had major medical issues and had to fight back for years to regain their strength. There are people who are still looking for a good job and are finding that there aren’t any that fit who they are. It takes resilience to reinvent oneself.
Confucius spoke encouraging words when he said, “Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” Resilience is the positive force that allows one to spring back, to have the ability to grow and to build and to succeed where you haven’t succeeded before.
No defeat is ever final unless you let it be. Bounce back and move to a height higher than you were before you felt the pressure to change. Be resilient.