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Believe to achieve

Everywhere we go we have a bodyguard and a mindguard.  These two entities are trying to protect us from _____________  (you fill in the blank).    

The bodyguard is intensely interested, passionately involved in trying to keep you safe, physically safe.   The bodyguard is the voice that says, “No, better not do that” and you don’t.   You listen to your bodyguard in the hopes that your bodyguard will keep you safe.  Most of the time the bodyguard keeps you safe and sometimes your life will be devoid of risk, the kind of risk that is valuable for growth.

The mindguard has a different purpose, to protect you from living as you would want to.  The mindguard plants seeds of doubt and fear and hopes to hold you back from life.   We will do all kinds of things to protect our mind from the outside.   We will withdraw, we will sulk, we will become a victim, and we will do just about anything to keep the mindguard happy even if it means losing a part of our life.

Worry, doubt, fear, anxiety, control, impatience, perfectionism, and the list could go on are things the mindguard uses to control you.  

The mindguard and bodyguard are habits, controlling habits that prevent you from being all that you can be.  These guards control you rather than you controlling the guards.

What controls do you have in place that are protecting you from living a full life?

First you have to evaluate the guards and see if they are fit to be the guards of your mind and body.

What are the guards?

What are they protecting?

What are they inhibiting you from?

Now the guards aren’t going to like their territory invaded, so you must be careful. 

Believe that you can do better than you are doing.   Believe in yourself.

Identify your core values, those things you believe in deeply and know which values are the most important.   Know why your values are important, why are those important to you?

After you identify your values, determine which ones you are living by, and honoring.   What does honoring your values look like?    Create a plan to live out your values and spend some time each day working on that plan.

You have to believe in order to achieve.

  As soon as you accept the idea that you are in control of your thoughts you will be able to create your own happiness.
Lucy MacDonald

Two wolves … attitude

Attitude is something you own and have control over.   In many life situations people demand control over the outcome.  Most of the time they realize that control is an illusion.   In fact we have very little control or perceived control of our lives.   There is one thing we do control and that is our attitude.

We own 100% of our attitude.   Attitude is a choice we make in every circumstance good or bad.   It is our choice to be mad, sad or glad.  We can be angry at the driver who is driving what looks like inches off of our back bumper.   We can be angry that the day didn’t work out the way we wanted.

Attitude has power.

This story is a great example of what we can do with attitude.


Two Wolves

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.

He said, “My son, the battle is between two “wolves” inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf wins?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”


~author unknown


Let it go!

What makes you angry?

 Does something that might happen in the future make you angry?

Does something that is happening right this moment make you angry?

Or, does something that has happened in the past make you angry?

What triggers that emotional uprising within that surfaces as anger?

What if you could control the emotional well from bursting forth?

Take a moment to look at what emotional triggers generate anger within you?

Are they things you can control or are they things others control and impose on you? 

What choices can you make when there is a trigger that causes a flare up that causes distress within you?

Who is making the choice to be angry or upset?  

What would it be like to be anger free?  What would it be like to manage anger ?

It is possible with practice to release the emotions of anger gracefully and peacefully.

Take a deep breath …