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determination

“When the thunder rumbles,
Now the age of gold is dead.
When the dreams we’ve clung to
Trying to stay young,
Have left us parched and old instead.
When my courage crumbles,
When I feel confused and frail,
When my spirit falters on decaying altars
And my illusions fail —
I go on right then.
I go on again.
I go on to say I will celebrate another day.
I go on.
If tomorrow tumbles
And everything I love is gone,
I will face regret all my days, and yet
I will still go on.”
    Leonard Bernstein

Determination – facing the odds and not quitting in times of difficulty.   It takes determination to do anything of value in your life.    Remember back to a time when you were determined to do something, how did feel to accomplish that goal?

For some people it means pursuing a college education, it means having the resolve to face the challenges and push through even in difficult times.   For some people is going after a vocation that they believe in.   For some people it is climbing a mountain.    Whatever the goal it takes determination to reach the objective.    Rock climbers climb with determination to reach their goal, going beyond what most people would imagine possible.

In 1914 Earnest Shackleton set sail for Antarctica with the goal of crossing the continent.    Before Shackleton and crew could set foot on land their ship Endurance was captured in ice which quickly surround the vessel.   Months later the crew abandoned the ship as the ship became overwhelmed with the pressure of the ice.   The crew survived the harsh winter on Elephant island.    Shackleton was determined to get his crew rescued and set out in a small boat with a few others and made a long trip to South George island.

When  have you been challenged beyond what you thought was possible?   What kept you going?

Courage to …

“I am not confident”

“I am not able to ….”

“I am lonely and alone …”

“I want more out of life but I don’t know how … ”

These are lines from people that are seeking something better in their lives.  Maybe it is a line that you have used yourself and are wondering, “Am I good enough”, “Am I able …”.

Those questions are often asked in a small voice and that restores for a moment the confidence that is lacking or missing.   Someone might feel sorry for me and would be able to connect with me for just a minute and that helps, but in the real day to day story  it is a cry for help and a desire to begin living a life that can be so much better. 

Life can be better and it takes work to make it better.  It takes an act of courage to change from not feeling good enough about yourself  to creating the life that is really desired.

“Courage , also known as fortitude, is the ability to confront fear, pain, danger, uncertainty or intimidation. It can be divided into “physical courage” — in face of physical pain, hardship, and threat of death — and “moral courage” — in the face of shame, scandal, and discouragement.”  (Wikiquote)

It takes courage to change, to become all that you can be and to give up the burdens that hold you back from being all that you could be.

It takes courage to to act and create the better tomorrow and hope that it can become what you truly desire.

Be SMART

Setting Goals that matter

There are techniques that are somewhat popular for establishing realistic goals.   One of the techniques follows the acronym call SMART.   SMART goals have five components (as you could guess).

S, Specific, the goal must be well defined, not large.

M, Measurable, how are you going to measure the results/outcome.

A, Actionable, can it be done

R, Relevant, does it make sense to do.

T, Timely, a specific date/time in which the goal will be completed.

 

This is just a process to nudge your thinking a bit so that realizable goals can be achieved.   One of the big items on the list is “measurable” what are you going to do to make sure you are making adequate progress towards the goal.   The axiom “you can’t manage what you don’t measure” holds true.   Part of goal setting is managing the progress or lack of progress that is being made.

Many people start the New Year off with some resolutions, I RESOLVE to do X before the end of the year.   What happens is that X might be too big to accomplish, or it might not be measurable, or actionable (too many other things get in the way of getting the goal accomplished), the goal was relevant and the timeframe wasn’t realistic.

One of the best ways for success is to start small and get easy and early victories.   Set the goal so that it is attainable (which is sometimes used for the letter A in SMART).   Why start with a huge goal when what you really need are small successes (people are encouraged by making progress).   Celebrate the small successes with rewards that are meaningful (and hopefully ones that don’t compromise the initial goal).

Work hard, work steady, work consistently, and work with courage.

The goal is yours!

For the better

What you focus on expands.

That is if you are thinking positive thoughts you will grow towards those positive thoughts and if you are thinking about things that go wrong you will necessarily bring yourself towards things that are negative as a consequence.

What do you think about most?   Do you think that you can?   Do you think you have amazing abilities, courageous character, magnificent manner, superior strengths, or honorable humility?

What is the predominant creative force in your life?   Do you use your creative force?

When we choose to be creative we choose something far grander than we imagine.  Robert Fritz writes, “Moreover, the entire quality of your life changes dramatically, from tragedy, drudgery, pain, tolerance, struggle, sameness, and boredom so often characteristic of life in the reactive responsive orientation to the excitement and adventure characteristic of life in the orientation of the creative.” (The Path of Least Resistance)

Fritz again writes, “When you examine reality with a preconceived idea of what you will find, you particularly notice those facts that reinforce your concept.”   This goes back to the idea what you focus on expands.  The confirmation bias that you hold causes you to look for things that affirm your ideas or bias.   Suddenly everything you see acts in synchronization with your ideas and beliefs – the world is in alignment with your beliefs right or wrong.   If you are thinking creatively – expanding your capacity to better yourself or the world, what you are focusing on will expand for the better.  

What do your focus on?   Creative forces or something else?

start living today

“It takes courage to look at yourself and accept your imperfections. It takes courage to love yourself anyway. It takes courage to go beyond merely trying to survive your life and start trying to actually enjoy it.”  Seth Godin  The Tribes Casebook  http://sethgodin.typepad.com/seths_blog/files/CurrentTribesCasebook.pdf

 

It takes courage to change.  It takes courage to want to be better than you are today.  It takes courage to live.

 

When do you want to start living?

 

 

 

What would make today remarkable?

What would make today a remarkable day?   Imagine if you could make today a remarkable day what would it be like?    Would that be enough for you?

Now, imagine if you made someone else’s day remarkable?   “The deepest need in human nature is the craving to be appreciated”, is what Williams James wrote.   If that is so, what could you do to make someones day remarkable?

All it would take would be to say a word of thanks, a word of encouragement, or in some cases a word to apologize and mend a fractured relationship.  All acts of kindness take courage, the courage to act and the courage to appreciate and acknowledge someone else.

Imagine if it was you that made someones day remarkable.   What would that be like?

Courage …

Alan Cohen wrote,

“It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power.”

What do you think?

Power in change?   Do you have the courage to become something new?   By new it is not a physical change but a transformational change of looking at issues and problems in a new way.   To see the same problem in a different way may give you the strength to remove the problem.

Courage to change?