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What I think I become …

“A man is but the product of his thoughts, what he thinks, he becomes.” -Mahatma Gandhi

 

Values, beliefs and experiences drive our thoughts.   What we think about we become.  Our thoughts are transformed into emotional energy, fear, worry, doubt, anxiety, or happiness, peace, joy, confidence, self-assurance, and contentment which ultimately shapes how we live our lives.  Most people experience far more negative information in their lives than positive.   The messages that are received from others begin to transform our beliefs about ourselves over time.   Messages that we receive as children enter our mind in the formative years and become a strong part of our story.   It is not that the story is true, it is that we believe that the story is true for us and we start living in that story rather than the story of our own making.   In other words for some reason we focus on the impacts of negative thoughts more so than positive thoughts.  It is as if we are taught to believe negative thought as being true and positive thought as wishful thinking.   Martin Seligman writes “Frequent and intense negative thoughts about the past are the raw material that blocks the emotions of contentment and satisfaction, and these thoughts make serenity and peace impossible.”

What can one do in order to shift the thoughts that drive emotions so that there is more positive thinking being done?  

  1. Focus on positive events in life and  opportunities to be grateful.
  2. Forgive the people in the past that may have strongly influenced the negative thought patterns.

Positive emotions lead to better health, both physical and mentally according to research done by Sarah Pressman.  

Positive thinking leads to positive emotions which increases the overall satisfaction with life.   Who wouldn’t want more of that?

What can you do when a negative feeling or thought comes screeching at you?

  1. Take a deep breath.  Acknowledge the emotion (“I feel …. “)
  2. Shift the energy of that emotion.   (This is mental Aikido …) and gently push the emotion to a different place.  
  3. Replace the thought with something better,  a favorite vacation, sunset, something admirable, peaceful, enjoyable and inner smile event.
  4. Take another deep breath.

Read the words of David Whyte and see what message is trying to convey.   We are often trapped, bombarded by information, and most of it is negative information, sensationalized news, stories that are all designed to pull us into believing everything in the world is negative.   Negative information sells and is profitable but it is not the world of truth, it is only a speck of truth in the total amount of information that is available.   Sometimes it is the negative news that provides momentary relief from personal suffering that people seek.  However a constant bath of negative information soon becomes the truth about the world and about the self and it takes more depressing negative news to feel just a tiny bit better.   

Surround yourself with positive news, positive thoughts and positive people and you’ll start feeling better about whom you are, and what you can accomplish.  It turns out that the more positive things you bring into your life the better your life becomes.  

Loaves and Fishes

This is not
the age of information.

This is not
the age of information.

Forget the news,
and the radio,
and the blurred screen.

This is the time
of loaves
and fishes.

People are hungry
and one good word is bread
for a thousand.

  — David Whyte
      from The House of Belonging
     ©1996 Many Rivers Press

take an extra step …

 

When your eyes are tired

the world is tired also.

When your vision has gone

no part of the world can find you.

Time to go into the dark

where the night has eyes

to recognize its own.

There you can be sure

you are not beyond love.

The dark will be your womb

tonight.

The night will give you a horizon

further than you can see.

You must learn one thing,

The world was made to be free in.

Give up all the other worlds

except the one to which you belong.

Sometimes it takes darkness and

the sweet confinement of your

aloneness to learn

anything or anyone

that does not bring you alive

is too small for you.

David Whyte from “The House of Belonging”

Where do you want to be?

Where is your journey taking you?

What makes you come alive?

On a scale of 1-10, 1 being I not even close to living the life I want to live to 10, I am living the life I desire to live.

Where are you?

Are you getting closer to living a life of a 10?

What would allow you to live the life you want to live but haven’t so far? What story are you telling yourself right now that is holding you back from living that life you were meant to live?

Write down the reasons you aren’t living the life you desire to live?

Then write another page that would take each reason that you aren’t able to live your life the way you desire and write a solution to that reason?

For example people don’t move forward because:

1. They don’t feel like they have the education.

2. They don’ feel anyone believes in them.

3. They really don’t know what they want.

4. It’s too hard.

5. I can’t do it.

What is your story? What is your excuse?

If you don’t feel like you have the education you need to get the life of your desire, then what could you do to get the education? Just list out all the ideas you can think of.

– Read more

– Get a mentor

– Volunteer

– Go to school

That is just a few ways to build your educational base, and a few ways with some effort that you will get closer to your dreams.

 Take a bold step forward and claim your dreams.   Work a little harder than everyone else.   Take an extra step and go an extra mile to get what you desire. 

heard an encouraging word lately?

Loaves and Fishes

This is not
the age of information.

This is not
the age of information.

Forget the news,
and the radio,
and the blurred screen.

This is the time
of loaves
and fishes.

People are hungry
and one good word is bread
for a thousand.

— David Whyte
from The House of Belonging
©1996 Many Rivers Press

 

Are you encouraged?   When was the last time you were told how wonderful you are?   When was the last time you were appreciated for your contributions?   When was the last time you heard “Thank-you”?

Sadly, many people hear more criticism than praise for the work they do and the life they lead.  A thousand things go right in a single day, yet it is the one thing that didn’t appear to be right that got noticed.

There have been campaigns at various times that tried to get people to focus on what was done right.  One of those campaigns was called “Catch me doing something right”.    If everyone just caught one or two people a day doing something right and told them how do you think the day would be for those people?

Catch a person at a cash register

Catch a person walking down the street, hallway or in a store – Thank them …

Catch a person anywhere , anytime and Thank them …