“Live with intention.
Walk to the edge.
Play with abandon.
Choose with no regret.
Appreciate your friends.
Continue to learn.
Do what you love.
Live as if this is all there is.”
― Mary Anne Radmacher
Is your life working for you? Are you at the weight you desire to be? Are you working at the career you love? Do you have great relationships with others and yourself? Are you learning and growing? Are you finances where you want them to be?
If you answered “no” to any of those questions then what are you doing to create the outcomes you want? Many people would like to change and attempt to start and then stop. Dieters do this all of the time. They get on a diet and lose some weight and think, “wow, that was good and now I can celebrate”. The celebration goes on and on and so do the pounds. The rebound is greater and the weight gain is greater. What sets in after feeling terrible about not losing the weight, eating more. Eating food is the pain-killer for being overweight.
Finances, it just feels right to spend and buy things. It feels good to buy things and then it feel terrible to see the bill come in the mail. The budget is out of whack again and it feel terrible. Why not spend a few dollars for things you don’t really need, it will feel better.
Is your career killing you? Do you dread dragging yourself into work everyday? Oh, you’ll get yelled at again. No one but you appreciates the work you do, and if you’re the only one that cares about the work then why do it. Have your ideas been tossed aside when your manager says to your great idea, “Yes, but …”?
What do you want to change?
This is a good news, bad news scenario. If you want to change it is possible and if you don’t want to change than nothing can be done. A therapist, coach or counselor isn’t going to be able to help you or encourage you to change. Change is something you want to do. If things aren’t working out in your life and you just want things to be different then it might not happen unless you are willing to do some work.
Change is intentional and you have to be intentional about make change happen for you.
Intentional change theory has been explored by Richard Boyatzis of Case Western Reserve University, here is part of the concept.