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Inner talk … the little voice

Have you ever wondered if that little voice that speaks to you continuously really wants you to be happy?    What would that voice say if you changed course today and did something different?   What would that voice say?

Successful people, really successful people, have trained their inner voice to support them.   Olympic athlete’s work with performance coaches to shift those inner thoughts to “winning” thoughts.  

The inner voice is different than intuition.   Intuition is a connecting force, connecting heart with head, and energy with energy.   It connects through feelings and sensing rather than by internal conversation.  

This poem written by Shel Silverstein talks about:

“The voice”

There is a voice inside of you
That whispers all day long,
“I feel this is right for me,
I know that this is wrong.”
No teacher, preacher, parent, friend
Or wise man can decide
What’s right for you–just listen to
The voice that speaks inside.”
  Shel Silverstein

This inner voice is the voice that shackles us to the past quite often.  It says, “Be safe” and will do just about anything it can to prevent risk, prevent harm or prevent change.    The brain is wily in its ways.   It has been trained by real voices outside the mind that shape and configure just how the inner voice will speak.   When you hear words that say “No, you aren’t good enough” or “You’ve failed before what has changed this time …”, or “You’ve never been good at that …”, any of those words are conditioned words, meaning that you’ve taken on those words and applied them to “who” you are.

What would it be like to hear the words of a voice that says, “Of course you can”, “Let’s do it today”, “You are good enough”, “You are beautiful”,
“You are amazing”, “You can do it”.    That voice is alive in your mind if it gets the chance to exercise.    Like our bodies it is what we practice and if we practice negative thinking we become those negative thoughts.   

“If you keep on doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep on getting what you’ve always got.”  W. L. Bateman

So, why not shift the words of that little voice.    Shift them towards words that are encouraging to you.   Words that will allow you to take a risk and make a change, a substantial change in the direction of your dream.

What would stop you from making that change?

quit the blame game

You’ve seen them, you’ve heard them and you’ve been one.    A blamer, a person who shifts the emotional energy of disappointment to another person or thing, to get out of range of the person who’s inquiry is stirring a negative emotion.

Blaming is a form of judgment on another person or thing.   It robs energy from what could be a positive discussion.   “Who is at fault?” announces someone and to a group or an individual.   No one wants to stand up and say “it was me” and feel the negative energy shift towards them.   Who really wants to take up blame and own it?   Not many do.   Why is that?

For a minute imagine a place where there was no blame, a place where comments or issues could be brought up and looked at objectively and then resolved, and no blame.    It takes a high level of maturity and a non-judgmental attitude to create an environment that is that safe.    It takes an environment where issues are worked on rather than affixing any type of blame.   Why is that important?

Every day you can see a headline where someone is being blamed for something, or an organization is being blamed for not taking the right steps.   Someone will inevitably get fired, reprimanded and have a letter written up and placed in their employee record that explains what they did wrong.   What did that solve?

In most instances the issue of blame is not attached to the intention of the event that causes the poor outcome.   A decision was made, perhaps with incorrect information, an assumption, or not enough analysis to produce a correct decision.   The inquiry is usually about affixing blame on an individual rather than the underlying system that permitted the fault in the first place.

“The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny. “  Albert Ellis

What would happen if blame disappeared?   What would you do then?