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Opportunity

“What you focus on expands, and when you focus on the goodness in your life, you create more of it. Opportunities, relationships, even money flowed my way when I learned to be grateful no matter what happened in my life.”  Oprah Winfrey

Opportunity!

What do you think of when you see or hear the word opportunity?    Opportunity for you.   What feelings are generated when you hear that word?

Opportunity is a word that generally elevates optimism and produces a sense of anticipatory positive outcomes.   Opportunity for something better to happen in the near future.   For some people it is like buying a lottery ticket with the hope that they will win the big prize and all their troubles will be over.

What opportunities are you seeking?   What do you hope those opportunities will do for you?

Opportunity is all around us if we take the time to look.   First we have to look within and find out what it is that will satisfy us and then look for opportunities that will accomplish that goal.   For some people their career is virtually meaningless.   Sure there is a paycheck but there is no meaning to the work they do and they stay there because of one thing a paycheck.    There are many opportunities to do something that is meaningful and still have a paycheck.

How do you get more opportunity in  your life?

1. Keep learning

2. Manage your emotions well

3. Listen more – talk less

4. Experiment – try new things (everywhere – choose something different from the menu of life).

5. Know your strengths

What can you today to create more opportunity in your life?

heard an encouraging word lately?

Loaves and Fishes

This is not
the age of information.

This is not
the age of information.

Forget the news,
and the radio,
and the blurred screen.

This is the time
of loaves
and fishes.

People are hungry
and one good word is bread
for a thousand.

— David Whyte
from The House of Belonging
©1996 Many Rivers Press

 

Are you encouraged?   When was the last time you were told how wonderful you are?   When was the last time you were appreciated for your contributions?   When was the last time you heard “Thank-you”?

Sadly, many people hear more criticism than praise for the work they do and the life they lead.  A thousand things go right in a single day, yet it is the one thing that didn’t appear to be right that got noticed.

There have been campaigns at various times that tried to get people to focus on what was done right.  One of those campaigns was called “Catch me doing something right”.    If everyone just caught one or two people a day doing something right and told them how do you think the day would be for those people?

Catch a person at a cash register

Catch a person walking down the street, hallway or in a store – Thank them …

Catch a person anywhere , anytime and Thank them …

Running in the human race

The human RACE … sometimes it feels like a race, a race that keeps getting faster and faster and faster and faster.   It is no wonder that so many people feel defeated and worn out being in the human RACE.

 

Racing around in every which direction, but racing to what end?   Who has stopped long enough to ponder what it means to be in this human race?   Where does it end?  What does it mean?    So, pause …. take a deep breath, and stop racing and start reflecting.   What did you miss today?   A birthday!   A word of kindness!  A word of encouragement!   A word of thanks!

 

At the end of the day what matters most – the race – or the relationships?

 

Try these questions.

Imagine if I truly made a difference in the world, what would I be doing?

Or

Imagine if  (fill in your greatest dream) then  _________________.

Or

Play imagine if with another person and their response would be the “then” phrase.

 

Example:

 

Imagine if I had a million dollars then I would build a home for the homeless.

Imagine if I built a home for the homeless then with the money I had left over I would buy them new clothes.

You can repeat the imagine if story until you can’t imagine any thing new.

 

What race are you in?   Are you making a difference?

Feed forward

Focusing on solutions, rather than mistakes, on the future, rather than the past, will enhance your self-image, enabling you to become more of who you desire to be.

Here is an exercise that you can try.  Find someone you know fairly well and ask them to help you with an area that you’d like to get better at.   Ask them to give you some suggestions that might help you get better in that area.

Before you begin record in a journal your experience and the goal you are trying to achieve and write in the suggestions they provided.  Work on following their suggestions.   Are those suggestions working for you?  Track your results in the journal.  

Try using feed-forward with others and focus on what is ahead of you.

“Every day is my best day; this is my life; I’m not going to have this moment again.
Bernie Siegel, “Love: The work of the soul, handbook of the soul.”

You can

 

Do you believe that?  You can!  You will!

 

The power of positivity can transform a life.  The words we use – I can – I will – I am – are words of power.

Start your day with an action – “I will”, or “I can” or a belief “I am”.   Those are words that you own that can not be taken away from you.   I own my destination – I own this minute.  

I can make a difference.  You can!

I am and I will.

You might be missing one thing – a plan!   How will I do what I need to do?

What steps do you need to take to make it happen?

Here is a simple rule to apply to that plan.  Make it a SMART plan.

Make it Specific.

Make it Measureable.

Make it Actionable.

Make it Realistic.

Make it Timely.

That is right make a specific plan – focus.

Make it measurable – how are you going to know you are done?

Make it actionable – the plan has to be something doable.

Make it realistic – do something that is going to matter, has value, and meaning.

Make it timely – start today, and have a date to complete the plan.

Yes, you can!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What would make today remarkable?

What would make today a remarkable day?   Imagine if you could make today a remarkable day what would it be like?    Would that be enough for you?

Now, imagine if you made someone else’s day remarkable?   “The deepest need in human nature is the craving to be appreciated”, is what Williams James wrote.   If that is so, what could you do to make someones day remarkable?

All it would take would be to say a word of thanks, a word of encouragement, or in some cases a word to apologize and mend a fractured relationship.  All acts of kindness take courage, the courage to act and the courage to appreciate and acknowledge someone else.

Imagine if it was you that made someones day remarkable.   What would that be like?

Passion and skill

“Without passion, all the skill in the world won’t lift you above craft. Without skill, all the passion in the world will leave you eager but floundering. Combining the two is the essence of the creative life.” Twyla Tharp “The creative habit: Learn it and use it for life”

Skill and passion linked together create a powerful potion for success. Passion and opportunity linked together create a powerful elixir for success.

What happens when the passion is missing?

Perhaps the skill is there but the passion isn’t, or the passion is there and the skill is missing. It might happen often that one of the two, passion or skill is missing but we forge ahead without one of them and that is when we find that something is missing. Joy emerges when we are able to put both passion and skill into the crucible in the presence of a catalyst.

Too often both skill and passion are mixed together and nothing happens and as a result people walk away wondering if they are doing the right thing. The catalyst might be a bit of encouragement, or a person who continue to push for a result but it is an external force that ignites the passion and skill mixture. The catalyst might be bit of inspiration, a bit of wisdom, a kind word, a challenging word, a flash of insight or hard work late into the night.

What do you use as a catalyst for action? When are you able to use both your skills with your passions? Do you encounter joy when you are able to use both skill and passion?