“Your complaints, your drama, your victim mentality, your whining, your blaming, and all of your excuses have NEVER gotten you even a single step closer to your goals or dreams. Let go of your nonsense. Let go of the delusion that you DESERVE better and go EARN it! Today is a new day!”
― Steve Maraboli
Get off of your “but’s“
Have you ever said, “I would _______________ but _________________”? Perhaps you have, or you’ve phrased a sentence and then added the word “but”. But is the word that means “I have an excuse ready for not being able to do it.” It doesn’t matter what it is the word but is what is used to stop personal and professional progress.
“I would start looking for a new job today but I don’t have the time.”
“I would quit smoking but I enjoy it too much.”
“I would lose weight but I stop eating.”
“I would start exercising but I don’t like doing it alone.”
Do any of those statements sound familiar to you? How do you add the little three-letter word but into your excuses. They are excuses aren’t they. There is no intention of making a real change, not when the but word gets put into the sentence. Using the word “but” gives you permission to delay or stop making the changes in your life that you know would benefit you.
Sean Stevenson would have some good excuses for not living life fully. It doesn’t appear that the word “but” is in Sean’s vocabulary. Meet Sean … listen to his story.
“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them.” George Bernard Shaw
Excuses …. how many do you make in a single day? There is always a reason not to do something and that reason is most likely an excuse. Excuses become habits and habits become a way of life.
What is the origin of excuses? When people are feeling disempowered one way to recover that power is to redirect the negative energy towards something else. If there was no personal threat then excuses would never need to be uttered.
To live to your full potential excuses must be replaced by responsibility.
1.It is too hard
2. I don’t have the time.
3. I am not good enough
4. I don’t have the money
5. I’m not smart enough
6. I’m too old or I’m not old enough
7. I don’t have the experience
8. I’m afraid
9. I don’t deserve to be successful
Which excuse is your favorite? What popular excuse do you use on a regular basis?
When someone asks you what you really want to do, do you follow that up with, “I don’t have the time, …, it’s true”. What are you really saying when you say ,”it’s true”. Does the “it’s true” statement validate your excuse? Of course it is true for you. Why should it be that way? What would it take to counter the excuse?
What happens when we live behind the door of excuses? What do you think that does to your life?
For the next week write down all the excuses you make. Just notice them and write them down. At the end of the week, notice what excuses you were making and how often you were making them. What does that tell you?
Live without excuses.
The minute you alter your perception of yourself and your future, both you and your future begin to change. Marilee Zdenek
Replace your coulds, woulds, shoulds with “will”. What would your statements look like if you replaced excuses for change with “I will do _____________”.
Repeat this in your mind or out loud, “My mind is always focused on the positive.” Every time a statement that is not positive enters your consciousness replace it with that phrase. Look for the positive in everything you do and you will find it.
Chose to be happy. Chose to be smart. Chose to be alive. Chose to be active. Chose to be friendly. Chose to be thankful.
Here’s one, “I commit to doing only what I can do.” Apply relentless focus on your day, hours and minutes, make each one count and be intentional on what counts.
Change won’t happen overnight. The words you say to yourself can change, repeat the positive and keep it circulating in your head. It takes work and practice.
The better the attitude, the better the results.
When will you start focusing on the positive?
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We all have reasons to “not” doing something. We live in a society that exacts from us excuses or reasons to avoid experiencing consequences. If reality is misrepresented it might be away of hiding the truth.
Being a victim is another method by which people hide behind the truth.
Hiding the real reasons behind a smokescreen of deception limits our abilities to achieve something grander than ourselves. Now if one person is masking reality then there are millions of others doing the same thing. Each time we hide behind false pretenses we are limiting our growth and the growth of the community and the growth of the society in which we live.
Living behind excuses puts us into a false reality, a reality that is colored by what we think things should be.
What kind of reality are you experiencing today, right now?
What kind of reality do you want?
Posted in Attitude, Communication, Goal seeking, personal success
Tagged ability, community, consequences, deception, excuses, personal growth, pretense, reasons, smokescreen, socieity, truth