What gets you out of bed?
Will today be a WOW day?
What would make it a WOW day?
What areas of your life don’t say WOW?
What excites you? What revs up your engine? What makes you want to say – “This is what I am going to do.”
Have you thought of celebrating something, anything without a special reason to do so?
What stops us in our tracks?
Dennis Waitley writes from his book “Safari to the Soul”, that there are three core ingredients that stop us from making a change in our lives.
1. Fear of rejection, which is being made a fool or failure in the sight or presence of others.
2. Fear of change, which is charting unknown waters being a pioneer, breaking tradition and sacrificing external security.
3. Fear of success, which is an expression of inadequacy in feeling we perhaps don’t deserve to achieve, combined with emotions of guilt when we do better than expected.
What is stopping you? Is it one of those three things?
The great explorers Lewis and Clark traveled together for a reason and that was to overcome those three things, fear of rejection, fear of change and fear of success. Having someone share the burden lightens the personal load and makes the journey easier.
In our personal journeys who do we take along to help us lighten the burden or who do we confide in to find our true north? Who holds us accountable? Who is there to help us celebrate the risk that we just took?
“The acorn transcends its shell to become an oak.” Robert E. Quinn
“Courage is simply the willingness to be afraid and act anyway.”
Think about the courage it takes to try something new. Have you said, “I’m going to do it”, and then have failed to take that first step. What stopped you? Was it the lack of courage to make the leap?
Often we are stuck in the patterns of the past. We have tried something that involved risk and failed. That failure is like a tattoo that reminds us over and over again that we failed. Others may remind us that we failed once or twice perhaps more and that it is of no use to chase our dreams.
It is the stories we tell ourselves that holds us back. We repeat over and over and over again that we aren’t up to the challenge and as a result we step back from the edge. When we do that a bit of joy is taken from us. That is the price we pay for not taking that step, a bit of joy is drained from us.
The first thing to do is to rewrite the script that plays over and over in your mind that you can’t possibly realize your dreams. It is possible to realize your dreams. The plans and the methods may have to change to reach that goal and that is where coaching can play a part. A coach helps you see potentials that may have not been visible to you. It is an approach called “a new way”. Sounds so simple, “a new way”, but that is the key to the next level. The old way won’t do it, it hasn’t in the past and replaying that script again and again won’t change the outcome.
What will you do today to start doing things in “a new way”?
66. Lead by Following
The river carves out the valley by flowing beneath it.
Thereby the river is the master of the valley.
In order to master people
One must speak as their servant;
In order to lead people
One must follow them.
So when the sage rises above the people,
They do not feel oppressed;
And when the sage stands before the people,
They do not feel hindered.
So the popularity of the sage does not fail,
He does not contend, and no one contends against him.
You cannot hope to build a better world without improving the individuals. To that end, each of us must work for his own improvement and at the same time, share a general responsibility for all humanity, our particular duty being to aid those to whom we think we can be most useful. Madame Marie Curie
Each of these quotes help us realize the value of coaching, relationships and leadership. The great leader acts as a coach helping people realize their full potential.
Galieo said, “You cannot teach a man anything. You can only help him discover within himself.”
Before someone can be coached there must be some form of a relationship and a desire to discover himself/herself. What do you think?