“Everyone is familiar with the phenomenon of feeling more or less alive on different days. Everyone knows on any given day that there are energies slumbering in him which the incitements of that day do not call forth, but which he might display if these were greater. Most of us feel as if we lived habitually with a sort of cloud weighing on us, below our highest notch of clearness in discernment, sureness in reasoning, or firmness in deciding. Compared with what we ought to be, we are only half awake. Our fires are damped, our drafts are checked. We are making use of only a small part of our possible mental and physical resources.” William James
If you read the quote above you probably have had days where the energy to live fully just wasn’t there. It was a day that you felt you needed to take off and just find a place to do nothing. Where does your energy come from? What makes you excited to participate in a new day?
What do you think is the biggest thief of energy?
1. To many things to do and no clear priorities
2. Nothing very interesting to do, not challenging or valuable
3. No external motivation, others encouraging you forward
4. Physical ailments or negative thinking
What would it take to activate you so that your day was filled with energy and positive outcomes? You do realize that your energy doesn’t come from somewhere else, it comes from within you. It comes from lifting your energy level up when it is down. It comes from thinking about one thing that will produce a desired result.
Clarity and focus. That is one way to get energy flowing. Be clear on achieving one goal and focusing on achieving that goal. Stay clear of distractions, email, conversation, or other activities that pull you away from that “one” thing.
“I am not what happened to me.
I am what I chose to become.”
~ Carl Jung
The mindset of many in today’s culture is that things happen to them, things that are out of their control, that lead to bad outcomes. No matter what is happening in their life all some people experience is the worst of life. How we experience life is a choice. We have the choice to make the most of a bad day or let the bad day make the least out of us.
Being a victim of external events removes power from anyone. Choosing to be caught in arguments, conflict, or negative situations without stepping back and pausing to see if the issue is that important puts us in a negative mental position. You can detect victim behavior by their language and how they blame others or the situation they are in for their attitude, how they can’t get things done or how bad they feel. Being a victim is a choice.
The other side of choice is driven by an attitude that says, “I take responsibility for my life and how I feel.” The person who desires to use the language of positivity will experience greater happiness and success. Those that choose to be grateful and positive will see better outcomes than those who believe that everything that goes wrong is an insult to them.
Learning how to become the person you want to be is a choice. Being the best you can be is something you can take charge of. If you know of someone who is always in the mode of a victim, who can’t seem to find positive outcomes in their life they may be a great candidate for coaching. Have them contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org for a free coaching consultation. Find out how you or someone you know can move from “poor me” to “powerful me”. It is your choice.
Are you happier?
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