“Keep my word positive. Words become my behaviors. Keep my behaviors positive. Behaviors become my habits. Keep my habits positive. Habits become my values. Keep my values positive. Values become my destiny.”
Good habits are hard to keep, bad habits are hard to lose. Why is that? Why is it so difficult to do what you don’t want to do and so hard to do what you do want to do?
Our habits stop us from being the person we could be. It is easy to be tempted by “habit” to do something we know isn’t in our own best interest. Take smokers for example. Many of them would love to quit but they don’t feel they can. There are people who would dearly love to quit drinking but don’t.
At some point it is as if our emotions are hijacking our lives. Where do you feel like you’d love to make a change but your emotions say, “don’t do it”. It is almost like saying if you help yourself you won’t be safe. The amygdala (that small part of the brain that controls how we react) loves crying out, “Don’t change … don’t change”, because it is afraid of what might happen. The “what if” is the fear is holding back the change that could be made when dealing with a destructive habit. “What if I fail, then what do I do?” , well if you hear that often enough how inclined would you be to making the changes your want to make? Most people aren’t very likely to make a change if they think it won’t stick or happen.
There are a lot of people working in a toxic environment and by toxic I mean environments that are disempowering, demeaning and have bullies managing the organization. I am sure you have seen some bad environments in which to work. While the pain of working there is high there is a thought that says, “Stay here because you don’t know what is out THERE”. That is fear and habit that is holding you back from making a needed change.
Our lives are largely run by habit, a programmed set of rules that we live our lives by. Think about the habits in your life. Which ones have you tried to change and how successful were you at creating that change?
What is the enemy within? It is the habit that still has a place in your life and one that isn’t making your life better. What do you want to do about it? What is it costing you to keep the bad habit?
“Power is the faculty or capacity to act, the strength and potency to accomplish something. It is the vital energy to make choices and decisions. It also includes the capacity to overcome deeply embedded habits and to cultivate higher, more effective ones.” Stephen R. Covey