“Each player must accept the cards life deals him or her: but once they are in hand, he or she alone must decide how to play the cards in order to win the game.” Voltaire
There seems to be a theme that runs through the lives of those with ADHD and that is a loss of self-esteem. Over time people with ADHD start losing their ability to believe in themselves and that leads to a sense of being alone and loneliness.
Perhaps it starts in the first days of the education process. A child with ADHD (even if they don’t know it at the time) will over time be labeled as different either by the teacher or by their peers. For a child the small differences, a little less acceptance and pretty soon a distance is created, a gap, few friends and a shrinking view of self. Some children with ADHD experience higher amounts of bullying and spend more time in isolation.
The story doesn’t stop at the end of grade school or college, it follows the person with ADHD around. For many it is a story of not being good enough and continually having to prove oneself. It may be more difficult for some people with ADHD to make friends, lasting relationships and strong relationships because of the stigma that they carry.
If you have ADHD what have you noticed about friendships, isolation and loneliness? What has your life been like?
What do you do to increase the size of your circle of friends?