“‘Time’ doesn’t pass. We human beings have enormous difficulty focusing on the present; we’re thinking about what we did, about how we could have done it better, about the consequences of our actions, and about why we didn’t act as we should have. Or else we think about the future, about what we’re going to do tomorrow, what precautions we should take, what dangers await us around the next corner, how to avoid what we don’t want and how to get what we always dreamed of. ” Paulo Coelho from “Aleph”
Many years ago it seems I took a bike and rode from Colorado to Connecticut a journey of 2500 miles. It was a dream to ride across the country and we did it in 36 days. The people we would meet along the way would be weary from living a life that thought they “had” to live. We heard things like “if I were younger ….” and their story of a life that had passed them by would float out into the air. What was their journey going to be like? Was it going to be a routine of living a hard life and not a life that was designed but a life that was handed to them by the hands of others who did the same thing. They were living a life, a life of existence, a set of patterns that were ingrained into them that limited the life they could really live.
Many people spend their lives chasing something and not being sure what it is or why they are chasing it and some people chase nothing at all and wonder what or if anything life will offer them.
Journeys start with a goal in mind, a place to arrive at, and that gives purpose to the journey. A goal provides direction and acts like a compass guiding the traveler to a place. The journey in between the starting place and the destination is the place where growth takes place. The journey is the hard work to realize a goal.
Riding cross-country on a bike built for two allowed us to experience what many people fail to experience, to live in the present, to live in the moment between the past and the future, there was nothing else. Turning the pedals for hours on end and experiencing the wind, the sun, and each breath was being able to live in the journey.
What goal do you have that is powerful enough to allow you to experience the journey? The journey where you can feel the heartbeat of each day and you can hear each breath and feel the sun, when are you going to start living in that journey?
“Leave your comfortable life and go in search of your kingdom” Paulo Coehlo from Aleph
Looking for IT!
How much time is spent searching? How much time is spent wondering what life is all about? The questions keep coming as if in a swift moving river.
Searching for IT. Searching for purpose, meaning, excitement, significance, satisfaction, success, happiness, joy, contentment, or life itself, searching for IT and it doesn’t come to you in a form that can be easily understood. Sure it does for some people. Some people know and find and locate their life’s destiny path at an early age. Others seek and seek and seek never quite knowing exactly what it is they are looking for.
What if the journey ended today, what would you have written on your life story map. What would it look like? What lives would have been touched? What things would have been better? What smiles would have been brought to the faces of those you care about?
That is IT isn’t it? What does the painting look like? What were the colors used? Were they bold and expressive or dark and scary? What does your story look like? Is it the story you want written?
If it isn’t the story you are thinking should be written then what is it that you want written on the pages of your life? What will your map look like?
Locate the landmarks on your map, the map of your life so far. What are those special things that you would find on the map? What would you tell others were on your map? To what heights have you climbed? From what valleys have you climbed out?
From a coaching perspective a coach becomes a catalyst for personal change, the change that you desire. A coach can help you locate a landmark on your life’s journey that you want to magnify or amplify. Perhaps there is nothing on your map that intrigues you to the point you find passion in it. A coach would help you explore something new, perhaps helping you move to a new location on the map that has never been explored. When you have the opportunity to explore new areas there is the chance to grow into something you haven’t imagined. There is power in personal transformation – to be what you desire to be, to fulfill all that you were meant to be. That is IT.
“History teaches us that men are in the whirlpool … will have to work out their destiny within it.” Gandhi
What will your destiny be?
Let’s start with a couple of questions. What are your answers?
1. If you were to FULLY live your life, what is the first
change you would start to make?
2. What do you want MORE of in your life? (Make a list)
3. What do you want LESS of in your life? (Make a list)
4. What are three things you are doing regularly that don’t
serve or support you?
5. What would you try now if you knew you could not fail?
Have you considered what your life would be like if you were fully engaged in your own story? Engagement means being proactive in charting your future, designing a plan that will push you towards that future and then executing the plan to realize your new future.
It’s not an easy task to create your future. It is easier to take a path that may take you to nowhere, or as it could be called utopia (that being a non-existent place). Marianne Williamson writes “Our greatest power to change our world lies in our power to see beyond the veil. For we will invoke the world we choose to see.” What do you choose to see?
Today we start with the words of the Sufi poet
“We have not come here to take prisoners, but to surrender ever more deeply to freedom and joy… Run my dear from anything that may not strengthen Your precious budding wings… For we have not come here to take prisoners Or to confine our wondrous spirits But to experience ever and ever more deeply Our divine courage, freedom and Light!”
What are the desires of our heart? Is it to seek out and find freedom and joy?
I think that experiencing both trials and success brings to us a sense of joy and contentment. Contentment is momentary and calls us to the next challenge, the next struggle and the next climb we must make. Moments of happiness are interspersed into our journey and like precious gems hanging in the sky they beckon us onward, happiness blossoms along the way encouraging us to take the next step.
Joy is a reward that comes to us as a result of the struggles and the battles we are engaged with. Our deepest longing is to find joy in what we do and in life. At times we are stuck in the vastness of a giant maze wondering which path will lead us to joy. It is when we are stuck that having a guide to help us find our way is of so much value.