Tag Archives: managing ADHD

ADHD Awareness month …

“Insecurities have the ability to shape and mold our minds to live with everything that’s bad; like crying on the inside, while smiling on the outside…thus creating pain…but, alas, I have the answer; forget about what you thought and enjoy (embrace) what you feel”
― Jeremy Aldana

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There are a lot of adults with ADHD (Attention Deficit(Hyperactivity) Disorder) and it impacts every day of their life in ways that don’t always produce positive results.   ADHD is like looking at the stars … too many ideas, too many thoughts, and too many things forgotten.

People with ADHD are often very creative and intelligent and struggle with things like staying on task, staying focused, getting things done on time or just being organized enough to remember the next appointment.  In a world filled with distractions people with ADHD are over distracted and that can impact their work, their relationships and their sense of well-being.

Learning how to manage ADHD can improve the life of a person with ADHD.   Learning about ADHD can help the people without ADHD understand how ADHD impacts those with ADHD.

Between Oct 26 and Nov 1 there is a FREE virtual conference on ADHD that you can sign up and attend.   If you know of someone with ADHD then have them sign up and learn the latest in ADHD management strategies.

You can sign-up here REGISTER FOR THE VIRTUAL ADHD CONFERENCE.  Register today and find out ways to take charge of ADHD (for you or someone you know).

ADHD … info you can use

“Stop allowing your outdated ideas to hinder your progress. How would your life be different if you became open to new information that can refine, improve, enhance your way of thinking, and empower your way of living?”
― Steve Maraboli

ADHD creates turbulence in the lives of those who experience the symptoms on a daily basis.

ADHD … increasing or just getting more attention.   In our fast paced society the symptoms of ADHD may show up in just about everyone at some point in time.   Losing focus, poor time management, low organization, or waiting and waiting to start something important.   At times everyone experiences some of the ADHD symptoms, but what about the person who really does have ADHD and lives with it day after day, what do they do?

Some people with ADHD hope it goes away and for some it does and for others it doesn’t go away, it follows them around and  impacts their careers, relationships, and their lives.    For some medication works, for some it doesn’t.   There are various treatments for ADHD, some work well and some don’t work so well.  What do you do?

Get information.   Find out if you do have ADHD and then find out how to manage it.   Don’t let ADHD manage you.    Go to a new ADHD information source and learn more about ADHD.   If you don’t have it chances are that you know someone that does, someone that could use some new information.

To find out more, click here.

Frustration … dealing with ADHD

“To conquer frustration, one must remain intensely focused on the outcome, not the obstacles.”  T.F. Hodge

People with ADHD often find that everyday challenges  leave them very frustrated.     “It should be easy” is what they hear and after spending more time than most a person with ADHD can easily find themselves still at the starting line.   It isn’t just a one-time event it seems that everything takes longer, even simple things and that leads to frustration.    Frustration leads to anger and for some it leads into depression.

How does someone with ADHD transform the negative experience of delayed success into something that doesn’t lead to frustration?    In your mind you may be thinking this should only take a few minutes to do and then an hour passes by and the desired outcome isn’t close to being realized.     When you were thinking about the result how much time did you think the task would take?   What are the steps you have to take to achieve the result you want?    For each of those steps how long does it take an expert to complete those tasks and how long does it take a novice to complete those tasks?    How many times have you completed those same tasks?

What leads to frustration is an unrealistic expectation on how long it will take to get something done.   For someone with ADHD executive memory function isn’t what it is for most people and it means adjusting the time it takes to complete a task until it becomes routine.    Repetition of the same task or similar task is going to result in improved outcomes.   Over time there will be improvements in how long it takes to accomplish the same time of work.

Here is a simple five step process to reduce frustration:

1. Identify – Is this something you have done before or is it something new.

2. Analyze – what needs to take place to get the right result.   Break it down.  Do I understand clearly what it is that I need to do.

3. Plan – create a step by step plan, an outline and estimate the time it will take to do each step.   How close is the plan you have now to what you thought it would be.

4. Execute – go do it.  Often people with ADHD wait, and then wait some more waiting for the energy level to increase so that something happens.   Take action, get a result.

5.  Reflect – what worked, what needs to be adjusted, what can success can you celebrate?

Frustration occurs when the expected outcome for any task or activity exceeds what you believe should be true.    The gap between what actually happened and your version of the truth leads to thoughts of failure.    Thoughts of failure amplify the internal messaging that are negative.   “I am not good enough”, and repeated often subconsciously or consciously leads to a build up of negative hormones (adrenaline and cortisol) and those are toxins that the body has to process.    The body wants to run away from the threat but when there isn’t something to run away from  that energy has to dissipate in some fashion and it turns into frustration and anger.

Dr. Orloff suggests practicing in dealing with frustration through being patient:

Would that be something you’d be willing to try? What do you think would happen?