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Inner talk … the little voice

Have you ever wondered if that little voice that speaks to you continuously really wants you to be happy?    What would that voice say if you changed course today and did something different?   What would that voice say?

Successful people, really successful people, have trained their inner voice to support them.   Olympic athlete’s work with performance coaches to shift those inner thoughts to “winning” thoughts.  

The inner voice is different than intuition.   Intuition is a connecting force, connecting heart with head, and energy with energy.   It connects through feelings and sensing rather than by internal conversation.  

This poem written by Shel Silverstein talks about:

“The voice”

There is a voice inside of you
That whispers all day long,
“I feel this is right for me,
I know that this is wrong.”
No teacher, preacher, parent, friend
Or wise man can decide
What’s right for you–just listen to
The voice that speaks inside.”
  Shel Silverstein

This inner voice is the voice that shackles us to the past quite often.  It says, “Be safe” and will do just about anything it can to prevent risk, prevent harm or prevent change.    The brain is wily in its ways.   It has been trained by real voices outside the mind that shape and configure just how the inner voice will speak.   When you hear words that say “No, you aren’t good enough” or “You’ve failed before what has changed this time …”, or “You’ve never been good at that …”, any of those words are conditioned words, meaning that you’ve taken on those words and applied them to “who” you are.

What would it be like to hear the words of a voice that says, “Of course you can”, “Let’s do it today”, “You are good enough”, “You are beautiful”,
“You are amazing”, “You can do it”.    That voice is alive in your mind if it gets the chance to exercise.    Like our bodies it is what we practice and if we practice negative thinking we become those negative thoughts.   

“If you keep on doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep on getting what you’ve always got.”  W. L. Bateman

So, why not shift the words of that little voice.    Shift them towards words that are encouraging to you.   Words that will allow you to take a risk and make a change, a substantial change in the direction of your dream.

What would stop you from making that change?

act on your decision

I have always thought the actions of men the best interpreters of their thoughts.”  John Locke

A decision without action is nothing more than a passing thought.   Imagine the person who has spent hours upon hours to arrive at a decision and then not to take action on that decision.  Think about the millions of people who make a decision to do something (“New Year’s Resolutions”) and then fail to take action on the very things they want to do.    What stops people from taking action?   It could be the fear of success as well as the fear of failure.    If you succeed then all the power of being a victim is removed.   If you fail then what you believe about yourself becomes more of the truth you are hoping to escape.

What needs to happen to take decision to action?

What does it take to be conditioned for success?competitions,iStockphoto,people,soccer games,players,cleats,world cup,sports,women,teamwork

  1. You need to believe that you deserve to be successful. 
  2. You need to invest the time and energy to be successful.   Success comes with time and continual effort towards a goal.
  3. You need to have endurance, success just doesn’t happen in an instant, and living in a culture where the belief is that everything can be had in an instant only serves to hold people back.
  4. You need to give up something else to get what is more important.   The decision to lose weight requires that you put down the food that has the most calories or the least benefit and exchange it for something that does have value.    Most people could lose weight if they ate less.   We live in a society that offers virtually free high calorie meals and in a society that spends more and more time in the easy chair than in the gym it is easy to see why people can gain a lot of unneeded weight.
  5. It doesn’t need to be perfect.   A decision made should be a decision kept, but for the perfectionist reaching for the goal is not going to work.  It hasn’t worked in the past and why should it work in the future.   So, instead of action the words become a litany of excuses of why it can’t be done.   There is a decision; it is just that the decision is never honored by action.
  6. Find someone who can non-judgmentally support your activity.  
  7. Change the inner dialogue.   Yes, that little voice that isn’t so little.   It needs to change so you can change.   So, when you hear words that are supporting your goals and decision change the words so that they are in 100% alignment with who you are.    If you are thinking “I am not good enough”, change that to “ I am confident today”, change your words so that they are positive.  Work on it day after day until the habit of poor thinking is replaced by good thinking.

Goethe wrote, “Thinking is easy, acting is difficult, and to put one’s thoughts into action is the most difficult thing in the world.”

What actions are you going to take to get the results you desire?